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I hate my life.
Like it sucks. I just lost all my friends. My family always yells at me. I hate it. I'm so sick of it, its the same thing over and over agian. My life is also really boring. I do the same thing everyday. I want to go to bording school to get a fresh start but my mom just starts crying and is like i can't loose you, but then why does she treat me like shit? what can i do to make my life better?
14/f
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I had your same problem. Whenever something went wrong in my house, I was always to blame. Whether something was missing, or dirty, I did it.
I moved out the second I turned 18. I spent my birthday with my mother, and then the next day I flew 2000 miles to California & have been living here ever since. My mom was very much like yours.
Just because your parents yell at you all the time doesn't mean they don't love you. Parents get really irritable at work and sometimes take their frustrations out on their children & don't exactly realize what they're doing to you guys.
I think you should talk to your parents. Ask them what you're doing wrong that makes them yell at you so much. I'm sure they'll have an answer. Tell them how they make you feel and maybe things will change. :) Now that I've moved out, my relationship with my parents has changed completely. I actually call them everyday & we talk for a while without being hostile towards each other like when I lived there.
As for the whole friend thing, I don't know what happened because you didn't say. If your friends stopped talking to you, then you shouldn't be friends with them anyways. If it was something different, then you need to talk it out with them.
I wouldn't worry too much. When a door closes, another one opens. Life will always get better even when it seems like it won't. Trust me.
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Hang in there, these are tough times and family life can also be incredibly difficult when each person is dealing with their own issues. I actually went through a very similar experience in my life, so here is the advice I can give you.
1- your parents- something must be bothering them whether it is trust issues/ or something that does not pertain to you at all. Figure that out, try to talk about it. Remember if she is going through her own issues she may just be using you as an outlet to her frustration. If this is the case let her know how you feel, even if she get mad at that...you have to try.
2- with your friends I find that it is much easier to walk around anti-social, depressed feeling sorry for your self than it is to get your self out there. You need to put on a happy face and put some real effort into getting new friends. Act like your happy so people will like you more...eventually you will be happier.
3- and as for your overall mood I suggest religion. Now in no way am I trying to push religion on you...but if you are at all the slightest bit religious try and put your faith into that. When a similar situation happened to me my faith is really want got me through it. It helped give me patience and forgive my family and gave me a new, brighter outlook on life...It really did save me. But again I am not trying to push religion on you, its just what I found most effective.
4- as for boarding school you will be going to college in a couple years but if you can afford it, it may help...what about a private school in your area so you can stay home? Also remember your mother probably also is upset over your relationship, if you leave she may feel that, that is the last straw and you two will never be able to repair your relationship and she will loose you forever...
I hope I could help if you want to talk more about anything I mentioned or whatever please message me!!!! sorry this was very long
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Okay, if you really want a fresh start then just make it happen. You don't have to go to boarding school to get a fresh start. How do you then? Well, first of all get involved with more activites like soccer or basketball. That way you can make new friends, have excitment in your life, and maybe get away from your family so they value your time together. If they still yell at you just tell them how you feel. I told my family that they yelled at me too much and they worked hard to fix it.
P.S. Your mom probaly loves you a lot to keep you away from boarding school.
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me exact same life but worse :/ theres nothing you can do but just keep living supposivly it all works out but give it a while
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