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too experienced to have sex with ?
hiiii my name is . . . welllll it shouldn't matter but i'm 15 years old . female . my boyfriend is 17 and well I want to do "it" with him but i'm very shy and I have lots of debates with myself. like I hate the way vaginas look lol . I don't know what to do if it hurts a lot . I won't be able to look him into his face . that's just how shy I am ! ! ! . & like I feel very insecure about the "odor" or "scent" of my vagina . because I never smelled anyone else's so like I don't know if it's wrong . I already went to the gynechologist (i probably spelled that hecka wrong) . she gave me medicine for bv bacterial somethin . & like I don't want to open my legs to him and get embarrassed :(
so please someone help me with some comforting and truthful words .
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Hey i dont really think you;re ready for sex. First of all think to yourself how much you really have to do it right now. Just because he's experienced i hope that he's not forcing you or pressuring you to do anything. I beleive that you have to find a way to not be shy because with you being shy its going to be more difficult for you to tell your boyfreind what you feel. Every vagina has different scents and as long as you stay clean its all that really matters. be honest with your boyfreind and tell him what you feel and if hes not okay with what you feel think twice if hes not only wantig sex from you.
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Honestly, you don't sound like you're ready for sex, with him or anyone. I hope he isn't forcing you into it either, and just because he is not a virgin doesn't mean you have to lose it too. If you feel insecure about being a virgin, it could be his influence indirectly. To conclude, you don't sound at all ready for sex. If you're going to have sex with someone, I believe it has to be meaningful and more than just sex, there's got to be some deep feelings and connections. You both have to be very comfortable with each other, where everything is in the open, where you can talk about anything and everything, and this includes looking him in the eye and saying this is sore or whatever during sex. It is quite a big decision as it is something you can't get back.. Once it is lost, it is lost forever. Don't let other things influence your decision etc.
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Hey. Yeah, well I definitely wouldn't ask him if they smelled or anything like that - or even get into anything about his previous sexual relations with anyone else.
And, I can understand why you are nervous about having sex. Honestly so many girls worry about the same things you do, and just don't say anything. I too, got diagnosed with Bacterial Vaginitis when I was 15 and that was before I lost my virginity and I was so scared that I would smell or something like that. But, it was literally all in my head & when I did have sex at 16, the guy I was with kept telling me I didn't smell hahaha, which sounds so weird but it made me feel way more confident.
Also, I am very shy. When I was younger I was really chubby so I was always so insecure about my body and so nervous that he would hate my boobs or hate my vagina because I just felt so ugly and disgusting. At first I wouldn't have sex unless it were in the dark, or without a shirt on. But, in time I felt more confident and it was a lot easier to have sex without clothes on and in broad day light.
If it makes you feel better, try and have sex in the dark or not in complete light, because it'll make you feel a little bit more comfortable. Since, even though you'll see him it won't be as scary looking at him in the eyes and stuff. And, you won't have to worry about him looking at your vagina & stuff. And, it doesn't hurt that bad. for me, I felt a little pinch and then I bled a little, and continued to bleed that night post sex. Which is normal.
Good luck to you, and you'll be fine! Honestly once you get over having sex for the first time, it'll make you feel so much more confident! Oh, and be safe!
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