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this guy.
i met this one guy on myspace a while back. he is now my boyfriend. whenever i hang out with him i have to lie to my parents about who he is.
we have hungout alot. but he doesnt drive. and i dont have my lisence yet and he lives about 30 minutes from me so his friend picks me up with him and drives us to his house and then drives me home.
i tell my mom im hanging out with some guys from a different school around here. and yesteday i told her that one of my friends is friends with a guy from about 30 minutes away (which is my boyfriend) and she told me next time i hangout with him she wants to meet him.
im getting my lisence soon and i have a car so i was thinking about going to pick him up and bring him back here.
but shes being lame and wont let me. so i threw a huge fit and i told her i guess she wont ever meet him.
anddd i told her what school he goes to. and according to my parents its a school for 'bad" kids. so that makes things ten times worse. but he doesnt seem bad to me at all. hes so sweeet. and the thing that mkaes it even worse is hes white. and ghetto. and my parents think that i shouldnt put myself down to that level and i can do so much better. but i look beyond those kinds of things. and it hurts me. becuase im happy and they suck at tthis hole thing. oh and they dont know hes my boyfriend. they think hes a friend.
i need advice on what i should do and stufff and how i should talk to my parents about letting me see him. and dont tell me i shouldnt meet anyone on myspace. i dont care what you think about that.
and sorrry if its confusing and long.
ps. i was thinking of seeing him thursday and friday cause i have no school. what should i tell them cause they wont let me drive down there
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You have a few things to take into consideration here. I know parent's think differently and can't see someone as you see them. If this guy is in a school for bad kids, then either he is bad or has some sort of issues because of how he was brought up. Sometimes you have a kid maybe drinking or doing drugs because they can't handle stress at home. Maybe he is past that. Maybe he isn't. You do have to realize one thing, if he truly is a bad guy he is not going to tell you that. He may lie about why he goes to such a school. I think your family should definitely meet him. I don't see why your mom and you can't just go pick him up together. I would be a bit concerned about this guy. You said that he acts ghetto. Outside of seeming cool, what other positive traits does that usually include? how many negative? If he gets his personality from listening to hip hop then he probably has zero respect for women. Just go slow. Include your mom a bit with this. If you try to hide everything she'll never accept him. She'll be suspicious because you hide things. We all deserve to be treated well and I hope you get that no matter who you are with.
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Hey there,
Sounds a bit troubling.. but, what I would recommend the most is telling your parents the truth about your relationship with him. Let your parents meet him, and if they do end up saying they dont like him, tell them they need to see past all the little things and start seeing the whole picture. I do agree with you. It does not matter if a person is ghetto, or white, or what school they come from. What matters is if the person treats you with respect, is honest, will make time for you, communicates, and loves you for who you are. All these aspects are what make a realationship. Your parents should be able to see past all the simple things and realize your true feelings for him.
But remember, he may not be who he appears to be, since you never truly know a person until you have hung out with them for a period of time. If things do ever seem to get strange, you can always take a step back for a few days and then get back together after when you discover what he is really like.
I think you should tell your parents the truth no matter what. If they dont accept him and you know this guy is for real, tell your parents he really is a sincere guy, have him hang out at your house in front of your parents just once and prove to them that he is a decent guy. Let them meet his parents if they want, then go visit him on your own on the weekend. Give your parents his number and say they can call you if they need so that they arent too worried. Calmly tell them you are old enough to know whether a guy is trustworthy, and that you really like him.
If your parents do not accept who he is after they meet him, then maybe you can go to his house and hang out there more often. I dont think you have to settle for anything more or less. You are who you are, what you appreciate reflects your personality, and your personality is what makes you unique :)
Good luck <3
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