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i dated this guy for 4 months and then i left him for another guy.. and then once me and that other guy broke up i came back to him and he took me back. only thing is that he doesnt want people to know we're dating so he tells everyone we're just friends, we're constantly fighting and i just keep thinking about this and if its even worth it . there's this guy in my art class and he's probably the nicest and funniest guy i've ever met. he always compliments me and he is very good at showing affection. but he's telling everyone at school that we're dating and he's even kissed me in front of everybody during lunch. i dont want people to think the wrong thing though, especially since i already did it to him once. but what should i do? i'm so confused. i care about them both but i just dont want to hurt them.
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Truth is you can't please everyone. Trust me I have seen people try and it doesn't work out. This guy your dating now that won't even tell people your dating seems to be kinda a jerk. It isn't worth it if you can't even show affection to him in public. Instead you have to hide it, it doesn't seem fair. Wherre on the other hand you have a guy that is more than excited too have you as a girlfriend. He isn't afraid too tell everyone and he doesn't seem too be to afraid to show affection or to let you show affection toward him. Sounds like the answer is staring you right in the face. But whichever you chose is your choice and I am sure no matter whatc choice you decide you have a good reason and shouldn't be questioned. But just remember you can'y make everyone happy. Your going to hurt people in your life it's just human nature. It's ok.
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You mentioned that you didn't want to hurt either of them. That's fair enough. But when you think about it isn't one of them already hurting you? I would be more than insulted and outright pissed if someone who is dating me won't even acknowledge that they were.
Maybe he's cheating and maybe he isn't but that's very bizarre behavior for someone who is supposed to be your boyfriend. If you are constantly stressed and fighting with this creep which let's face it he is go ahead and kiss him goodbye. You don't need that aggravation.
The lesson you need to learn here is to be assertive, stand up for yourself and don't let people walk all over you. Don't be a mouse. This guy is walking all over you and you need to put him in his place.
Once you've done that date the other guy. He seems like a real sweetheart. Just tell him that it was wrong to say he was dating you when it wasn't official. Then start afresh with him and forget the other guy and experience. But yes, you have to learn not to put up with childish crap like this other guy is doing.
If someone really loves you and is dating you they don't go about covering it up in front of others. What is it about you that's causing him to do this? As far as I can see from what you told me the answer is zilch.
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