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What does he want?
I know, there are assloads of guy questions here, but after a month of talking to my friends, I still haven't resolved my problem.
I got to know this guy quite well over the last two months, and I'm kind of interested in him but the thing is, I have no idea what he wants.
First of all, he finishes school in like a month, because it's his final year...
He has a super secret girlfriend who sees once about every two months, just because she's in university and her parents don't let her have a boyfriend.
Me and him flirt so much though, we talk every day, he kisses me on the cheek and at least once a week we go to get lunch together from the sandwich bar near school.
On Friday we went out to town together and we spent like five hours together, just talking and flirting.
All my friends have noticed this and are asking me if anything is going on...
The thing is that I have no idea what he's thinking, but I don't really want to ask him because it may make things awkward, for the last months that he's still here for, until he goes to uni in another country.
One thing I know though is that he's not a player, he was with his ex for a year and a half until she moved away, and I don't know much about his current girlfriend, because he never talks about her.
So what do you think he wants?
I was considering saying something like "We should stop this whole flirting thing because you have a girlfriend and I'm getting tempted" but I don't want to ruin our friendship...
I just need help, I'm so confused but I can't forget about him.
Thank you so much to anyone that answers.
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Ok so he has a girlfrien he won't talk about, he's leavin the country in a month and u already know he wants to kiss on you. Sounds like he's having fun with you since his woman is not around and he's leaving soon. The way you describe him, it sounds like you can ask him about his plans for u and him and he will answer truthfully. If you want to know you have to ask! But honestly sounds like he's just having fun with you and he doesn't have any serious intentions at this point in time.
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He has a girlfriend. Period.
So you SHOULD stop the excessive flirting, based on that alone. That fact is a very good reason to stop it.
This doesn't have to hurt the friendship if you are both mature about it, just be really friendly and clear.
Maybe try this:
"We flirt, and I like it, but you have a girlfriend and I feel like we do it a bit too much. I want to cool it a bit so things don't get confused and feelings hurt. That means no more pecks on the check and no more talk of kissing, not even drunk."
That's all you have to do. Label the behaviour, say you think it's not cool, and then tell him very exactly what you want to have happen or to stop happening.
It’s a tough thing to do. Especially if you have feelings for him as well, but it’s very important thing to do to let him know that you won’t play the role of the ‘other woman’ and to let him know the behaviour is not cool.
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