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Here is my problem. Its long.
I've had the same best friend since 7th grade. I'm now in 11th, 10th grade we didn't really end, we feel apart. We fight constantly & I want to move on but still be her friend. I'm sick of the fighting everytime I do something without her but she can do things without me. She hangs with groups on the weekends who hate me & I'll sit at home & Every once n a while do something. I dont want to lose her, I want to get better. I don't know how though. I'm almost scared to talk it out with her because it'll just lead to a huge argument & then we probably will end. I'm just sick of how I get treated by her too.
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This is a hard situation to be in, I know because I've been there =/
The way I see it, this girl is not a very good friend. When you said that you can't do things without her, it shows she's insecure about your friendship and maybe jealous when you spend time with other friends. When you said that you're almost scared to talk to her, it almost made me sad because if she really is your best friend, you should be able to talk to her about ANYTHING. That's one of the things that make a best friend, a best friend.
I think you should talk to her about it, because it seems like it's really bothering you. Just tell her that you don't want this fighting; you want to be friends and REAL FRIENDS don't fight like this. Let her know that it's making you feel really bad, and you want it to stop. Explain to her that you don't understand why it's ok for HER to hang out with other people but it's not ok for you. Make sure, though, to let her know that you value her as a friend, and that just because you spend time with other people does NOT mean that they mean more to you than she does.
Honestly? The other option you have is move on and find new friends. I know it's hard, but you'll feel better in the long run because you won't have to deal with the constant fighting and feeling bad. Just start hanging out with her less, and slowly let yourself drift away. Like I said, yeah, it's going to hurt, but is it really worth it to keep fighting with somebody whose SUPPOSED to be your best friend?
Best of luck & if you need more help, I'm always here :)
-Laura (16-f)
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