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Girl Troubles :/
17/f
Okay... I just recently got out of a relationship (about a month ago) and it had gotten pretty serious. I really loved her and we wanted to get married. But then she broke my heart and left me. It took me a while to get over her, but I know now that I definetly am.
I haven't exactly had the best track record for relationships. One of my exes was a stalker, the other cheated on me, and the most recent one left me. So I'm kind of nervous to start a new relationship.
But there is this girl Chelsea and she is extremely funny, and pagan like me, she has an adorable smile, and is shy but outgoing at the same time. She is like... exactly my ideal type of girl. But I'm scared that it will end badly and I'm scared of being hurt again. I just want to be held and loved. I was sort of flirty with her at our friend's sleepover and she seem receptive to it (she is bisexual). I'm going to be going to the movies with her this weekend and I don't know if I should make a move.
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it sucks to get hurt in every relationship, I know. Don't rush into a relationship just because you feel alone, it'll only hurt you in the end. You need to let her know how you feel, but take everything slowly. Also, avoid having feelings that are really deep. It might be hard for you to swim out of deep feelings if a shark were to come around, metaforically of course.
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If I were you I would just tell her how I feel. Let her know you like her a lot and tell her why you like her. The worst thing that could happen is her saying No, I don't like you back.
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you're right. those relationships can be pretty traumatic. but you just have to keep letting yourself know that no one knows whats aroung the next corner. she could be the one, or just another mistake. whatever it is, you'll discover some things about her, and she'll discover things about you. she may be thinking the same thing right now about whether to make a move or not. maybe shes already taken, who knows? just dont fall head over heels YET. just have a little fun for now. once you think you're ready to start loving her, just love the moments you spend with her and treat her kindly. again, you dont know what the future is. she may be the one.
good luck.
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Try not to let your past experiences ruin love for you. I know how hard this can be, trust me, & you always have to deal with the risk of being hurt again, but you have to try not to let it get you down. If you just sit around sulking about it (not saying you do, just pointing it out), then you ruin your chances of ever finding love again. Plus, when you do find someone that's not going to hurt you, it can make being hurt in the past worth it because you've found someone who's proving that not everyone is like that.
I wouldn't necessarily jump into making a move just yet, so you don't scare her off, just take things slow & see if she feels the same about you.
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