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yoiu just answered my question before it said i wanna talk to my crush
well i will go into more detail . i am 14 andso is he we met in grade 7 because he waas in my class.. that year we were friends but no really good friends.. i havent talk to him in a while and about in november i liked him and everyone found out and someone made up a rumor about me wanting him in a tub of pudding! and that was about a month ago and then i stopped liking him and while i stopped liking him i talked to him but now i like him again and every time i pass him in the hallway i get all nervous ... (btw hes sorta a pussy and he wont talk to me) and when i liked him before he told his friend hje doesnt really talk to me and he doesnt know me but now that i like him again only a couple people know .. so i how do i go and talk to him? do i come open and tell him i like him or hes attractive or do i give flirty hint or should i just talk? and how do i go up to him and start the convo because i think im gunna do it but when ever i see him i bail because im scared.. and hes not even intimidating hes like 5 foot 1' and im like 5 feet so its not that bad but its just how i feel.. and how do i start the convo??
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Okay. First of all, the best thing to do is to pull back from this situation and look at it objectively (without your emotions clouding the issues).
What is it you want, exactly? Are you looking for a relationship with this guy, or just companionship?
Really, at fourteen the best thing is to focus on your goals and the kind of future you want to have. If you're looking for companionship, I say make friends. A relationship at a young age is always a mistake.
I've discussed this topic before, so I'll just quote myself instead of typing it again:
"This time in your life should be for you. It should be about having fun, about enjoying your friends, and about learning -- about relationships, life, and whatever goals you have for the future (and if you don't have any goals, you should definitely be focusing on those instead).
You do not want to get into a serious relationship when you're young, and here's why:
Women need to be independent. Make sure you've got a good education and a stable job. If you don't, you'll be at some guy's mercy, and when he does something stupid, you'll be back at square one and trying to figure out how to support yourself (and your kids, should you choose to have them).
If you still want to get into a committed relationship, then make sure you know this guy.
Date him for a year or more (I'm not kidding).
Observe the way he treats you, his family, and strangers. Make sure you pay attention to what he DOES, and not what he SAYS. People are always perfect when they're trying to get you to go out with them.
Also, be yourself. Talk to him. Tell him what you think, how you feel, and don't feel obligated to change for him. If he doesn't like the way you look when you're not dressed up, if he doesn't talk to you when you're not in the best of moods, you're not compatible.
Be genuine, and you will only attract people who like you for you."
Really though... if he isn't talking to you, he probably just isn't interested. Maybe he's focusing on his own life right now, and hasn't given much thought to relationships. At that age, a male is unlikely to be considering a "real" relationship at all, and you'll only come away from this with heartbreak.
Whatever you decide to do, good luck.
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