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will it ever go away? [eating disorder plz help!!!]
17/f
i have had an eating disoder, it comes and goes since the first time i had it. the 1st time was the worst when i was 15. it came back at the end of last year and its been on and off since then.
when it comes back i start to feel sad all the time and i dnt no why... its like the feels come back when the eating disorder does.
i dnt get it, each time its different like the 1st time i stopped eating for 3 days to get my mum to notice and then when i started eating again i had bulimia, 2nd time i was so stressed i just stopped eating for like 2 weeks then i had bulimia again and this time it started from me bindge eating and throwing up. atm im scared to eat and im trying not to, i just dnt trust myself cos i never feel full or satisfied so i just keep eating. thats wat started it this time.
i dnt want to get sick again i know its not worth it but i dno wat to do its like its haunting me!! i told my mum last year when it came back that i wanted professional help but she wudnt take me.
how do i get over this i hate it and im freaking out that it will keep comin back and never truly go away!! =[
HELP! =[
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You know what you're doing is not healthy and is wrong or you wouldn't be asking this question on Advicenators. I'm glad you're realizing that your current habits are not good and are cycling back to a problem you had awhile back, but it also means you need to take some steps to get healthy again.
If you are going days with barely eating and, suddenly, one day you binge until you vomit--something is wrong. Most people with eating disorders will do this at some point, especially the gorging so much they vomit routine or binging and forcing themselves to vomit.
Seek out a good therapist and start there. They will help guide you through underlying problems that may have caused you to resort back to this sort of damaging behavior. Sit down and explain to your mother that this is serious, you are scared, and that help is required before things get worse (and they will; they always do).
Eating disorders are, obviously, a mental issue. You cannot "catch" it and wait for you to get over it like people do with colds. You cannot just keep doing what you're doing either or you may end up in a casket. You know what you're doing is wrong and self-destructive, so, please, get some help for your problem.
No matter what "tip" I give you to get healthy, it may not help. You may end up doing what you've been doing or altering the behavior enough to feel better about it. The problem is, you are sick. When people get sick, they need doctors. You need a doctor. Preferably some sort of therapist :)
If you're able to, open up to a parent or guardian about your recent behavior. Let them know that you feel you need to seek help from a professional to overcome this. Tell them everything that you told us so they know how serious this is and how harmful it can get. Then, when you see your therapist--tell them EVERYTHING. They will be able to help you relax in life, de-stress, manage yourself better, and overcome this disorder.
To overcome an eating disorder, you have to do the same things you do when you actually have the eating disorders. This basically means that when an anorexic girl is counting calories and making she is only having 100 a day, to get better she has to count calories to make sure she gets a healthy amount each day. It is very, very hard for people to do this because it's very, very easy to slip back into the routine of bad habits.
You can't just stop exercising, right? Many people with eating disorders over-exercise though. They figure, "I'll do this for 3 hours then take a break for 3 hours and then do another 3!" Instead, to get better and stay healthy, you have to time yourself in a better amount, "I'll do this for an hour today and then I will stop so my body can rest." It's hard, you see.
Eating disorders are very difficult to get over and many people never do completely recover. It's as simple as I've listed above. You have to do the exact same things only alter them to healthier ways of living. This is why a therapist is desperately needed. Usually there are some major things going on in the person's life that is overwhelming them and they feel they need to control something more.
It's likely you won't get better on your own. It's a very hard path to go down. Please, turn back while you can and take the hand of a therapist and the hand of a parent. You can make it through this with them.
If you have any more questions please feel free to ask me! :)
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in phychology we watched a video about bulimia. It said that for the people with this condition, it took much longer to get satisfied, because the signal to the brain that u are full is so weak. So it took alot longer for a person with bulimia to become satisfied. You do need help.
Not eating anything at all is very bad for your health. You have to eat something at least.
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I have been recovering from anorexia for as long as I can remember. My symptoms began when I was only in the 5th grade! 10 years old! And my parents really started noticing after a while and I ended up getting professional help. I saw a psychiatrist for at least 2 years, and sometimes I wish I still saw her. The best way to end your disorder is through professional help. Psychologists, psychiatrists, doctors, and those who are specialized in the field of eating disorders will know what you need and how to help you get that. As long as you're willing to do as they say, as difficult as it may be, you can recover. For some people, out-patient care will be enough, but for those who have been deep into the disorder, in patient care and even a bit of hospitalization will be necessary.
You want to get help and it has been two years off an on, so you might be able to try out-patient care at first, which is what I did. I saw my psychiatrist once a week or so, but I got to stay at home and work at my disorder without being watched 24/7 by doctors and nurses.
Will the disease ever go away for good? I'm not sure... I'm 18 years old and a college freshman, and I still think about how much food I'm taking it, whether or not my food is healthy, should I really be eating this, if I skip this meal I'll be okay, etc. I still get those thoughts a lot of the time. Sometimes when I go work out, I have to literally stop myself from over doing it. I tell myself that I can't stay at the gym more than a certain amount of time, and that I can only do certain machines for a certain amount of time before moving on to weights and other forms of work-outs. I try to stay active and healthy by playing intramural soccer at my school, and I do a lot of other things to keep my mind away from obsessing over what I'm doing. It also helps that I have a friend that I go to college with who was there through my entire disorder. She knows what I went through and because her mom is some sort of dietitian person, she knows what it takes for me to get better.
As far as I'm concerned, an eating disorder is just as mental as it is physical. It's something we never truly get rid of, but we do get through and get better. I think I may always have those thoughts, but I've learned that I'm strong and can overcome them.
Also, the longer you have this disorder, the more difficult it will be for you to stay in shape once you get better. Right now your body is going to hold on to every ounce of fat and everything else coming in because it knows you'll be throwing it up or you'll stop eating at some point. That's why you binge - your body keeps saying it's hungry because you've been starving it. Throwing up is just like not eating - you're starving yourself. Your metabolism gets slower so it can hold on to more food in the case of you getting rid of it again or stopping any from being consumed.
Your body may forever be terrified that it won't get enough food to survive, so the longer you keep up your disorder, the more severe it becomes, in recovery as well.
If your mom doesn't want to take you to a doctor for help, see your school counselor. If that still doesn't work, have your friends help you. It could be a big burden on them and yourself, but you need to do something now.
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