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mean boyfriend / ex boyfriend. . . . whatever he is
well me and my boyfriend went on a "break" he said he just wanted some time away from the relationship and stuff. we didnt talk for a few days after that because i was upset. but the next day, he still wore his dog tag to school that had my name on it. i had mine in my pocket so i put it back on. my friend asked him why he was wearing it and he said, "even though we are on a break i still love her". so we still wernt talking but the next day was saturday, we got in a huge text fight and the next day he asked me to come over. he wasnt wearing his dog tag but we resolved the fight and said we still wanted the break. we had been texting like everything was fine but then after i left his house i asked him how he was n he sed fine. so i was like do u wana go? n he said what? n i said i thought u didnt wanna talk to me. and he said, you read into things too much but sure. so i was like ok? and he said yeah bye. so then when we came back to school he wasnt wearing his dog tag. the last few days he hasnt been wearing it and my friend asked him why. he said, "why should i wear it". does this mean he doesnt love me anymore? or is he acting mad because i am acting mad at him and igorning him? or does he wasnt this break to turn into a permanent break? why has he become so mean all of a sudden? i just dont get the sudden change of attitude. we were texting like everything was fine after the fight but then he suddenly didnt want to talk to me. i really dont understand and he texted me last night but my friend told me not to text back so i didnt. and we ignored eachother in school today. why is he acting this way, does he not love me anymore?
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Ok this guy is clearly playing games! So heres what you do..
Be nice when you see him, don't ignore him or try to make him jealous because that usually backfires, say hi, be friendly and try not to keep asking him about his 'feelings' because most guys hate that.. instead have some fun hanging out with your friends, maybe meet some new people and give him some space and pretty soon he'll realize what he's missing (they always do!)
Trust me it works! plus, by hanging out with your friends more and getting on with your life while you wait for him to make up his mind, it won't hurt as much if he decides not to get back with you. Be straight with him about your feelings and hopefully he'll be straight with you and stop giving you mixed messages!
And stop worrying, you are reading too much into things but we all do it and we can't help it so just try to get your mind off him as much as you can (and get your friends to help!)
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wow - I can see how you would be very confused.
You probably are reading too much into the mixed signals he gives. Because he hasn't really talked to you about why he wants a break and what he is looking for long term (friendship/relationship/see-ya), the signals are really the only thing you have to go on right now to decipher where things are going.
I can tell you, the harder you chase, the harder he will run. And you need to quit the 'acting' and 'game playing'. DON'T try to make him jealous. That just confuses the issue. Most of the time guys don't really understand the 'why' of how they are feeling anyway! lol
First, apologize for not texting back. Tell him you were confused about your feelings that day and you delayed answering until you were sure you could have a fun and friendly conversation. Hopefully that will open back up the communication. If he doesn't respond - don't obsess about it. He may be giving you a little payback.
Start treating him like a 'cherished friend'. Not like a boyfriend, but not like just any other guy that means nothing to you. When he is around, act like he is a fun guy you like to hang out with (no emotional 'do you love me' talk) - and when he isn't around 'out of sight/out of mind'.
At school, always give him a friendly HI - but don't wait around for a response. He will seek you out if he wants to talk/hang out.
Let him text you first -even if it kills you. Then respond friendly ... even a little flirty if it feels right, but not over the top.
Don't make him feel like you are looking for more or chasing him. Play it COOOL. If anyone asks how you guys are doing - put the work out that things are great and you think he is really cute, sweet, friendly ... whatever fits - no drama. No - OH GOD I LOVE HIM THIS IS KILLING ME.
I have seen a lot of couples break up and get back together. The ones that do, seem to be because the girl found a way to get the guy chasing her again - instead of desperately clinging to him.
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