Gender: Female
Occupation: psychology student
Age: 18
Member Since: February 26, 2009
Answers: 5
Last Update: February 26, 2009
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Last night I had a dream, and I'm confused [16/f] ... -I was in school and I see this guy I like, who liked me, but then went with his ex girlfriend, we haven't talked for 4 weeks. and he was with his girlfriend and my other guy friend and I followed them into the gym, he kind of motioned me to follow them and said "c'mon". [the gym in my school also turns into a lunch-room. we have 2 lunchrooms] when we get into the lunchroom/gym, the bleachers are down and we sit in the middle. His girlfriend sits down and i sit across from her but 2 steps lower, on a dfifferent level. The guy i like sits infront of me on the level above mine, acrossfrom his girlfriend who is kinda far away from him. then my guy friend sits next to the guy i like girlfriend. So we are just sititg there and I think the guy that I liek was talking to me, and then i turn and i see 3 of my friends that I usually sit with on another set of bleachers next to me [wide stairs are seperating us] one of them is my bff and i text her and im like, "ask ---- [my other friends name] to come sit with me." [she wasn't sitting with them either. i out my cell away right after i sent the text and then the guy I like moved away from me and next to his girlfriend. I felt really awkward and didn't know if I should move up next to him, until his girlfriend, my guy friend, and the guy I like got up and the guy i like motioned for me to follow him again. so we are all walking in a straight line and I'm right behind the guy I like. we get to the other side of the gym and we are standing under this bleacher thing [all of us] and watching the basketball game. i was saying "this is so gay how they're making us play basketball" and the guy i like said, "yeah I know." and we started laughing. then i saw this popular guy who i don't talk to or like at all in real life and he picks me up and starts hugging me and lifting me up into the air and I'm laughing and the guy I like is watching me the entire time. but then the popular guy puts me down and he kisses my cheek. then i go back over to the guy i like and i say, "shouldn't you be with your girlfriend?" and he looked back at her talking with my guy friend and some other girl, her friend i think. and he looks back at me and says, "nah, she's not gonna notice." I liked it when he said that because he would have rather been with me. and then we go back to watching the game and some girl makes a basket ... that's all I remember though. so could someone help me out here? haha thanks so much. (sorry it was long but I appreciate those who take the time to answer this question for me and read it) (link)
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Dreams are just our unconscious mind's way of dealing with the thoughts and feelings that we don't have time for while we're awake. Usually they mean nothing and just show what's worrying us or on our mind a lot. Yours seems to show your fear of being rejected by your friends/the guy (by them not sitting next to you/moving away) and that you like this guy but also liked the 'popular guy' so maybe you wanna make the first guy jealous or maybe you just want some fun?
In your dream his girlfriend was sat higher than you which usually means that you see them as being 'above' you in power (which makes sense if she's the guy u likes gf)
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well me and my boyfriend went on a "break" he said he just wanted some time away from the relationship and stuff. we didnt talk for a few days after that because i was upset. but the next day, he still wore his dog tag to school that had my name on it. i had mine in my pocket so i put it back on. my friend asked him why he was wearing it and he said, "even though we are on a break i still love her". so we still wernt talking but the next day was saturday, we got in a huge text fight and the next day he asked me to come over. he wasnt wearing his dog tag but we resolved the fight and said we still wanted the break. we had been texting like everything was fine but then after i left his house i asked him how he was n he sed fine. so i was like do u wana go? n he said what? n i said i thought u didnt wanna talk to me. and he said, you read into things too much but sure. so i was like ok? and he said yeah bye. so then when we came back to school he wasnt wearing his dog tag. the last few days he hasnt been wearing it and my friend asked him why. he said, "why should i wear it". does this mean he doesnt love me anymore? or is he acting mad because i am acting mad at him and igorning him? or does he wasnt this break to turn into a permanent break? why has he become so mean all of a sudden? i just dont get the sudden change of attitude. we were texting like everything was fine after the fight but then he suddenly didnt want to talk to me. i really dont understand and he texted me last night but my friend told me not to text back so i didnt. and we ignored eachother in school today. why is he acting this way, does he not love me anymore? (link)
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Ok this guy is clearly playing games! So heres what you do..
Be nice when you see him, don't ignore him or try to make him jealous because that usually backfires, say hi, be friendly and try not to keep asking him about his 'feelings' because most guys hate that.. instead have some fun hanging out with your friends, maybe meet some new people and give him some space and pretty soon he'll realize what he's missing (they always do!)
Trust me it works! plus, by hanging out with your friends more and getting on with your life while you wait for him to make up his mind, it won't hurt as much if he decides not to get back with you. Be straight with him about your feelings and hopefully he'll be straight with you and stop giving you mixed messages!
And stop worrying, you are reading too much into things but we all do it and we can't help it so just try to get your mind off him as much as you can (and get your friends to help!)
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I've had sex before.. and I guess I wasn't so nervous about this issue because I was with my boyfriend for two years.. and comfortable around him...
but anyways, I'm single now.. and I'm about to hook up with a friend this weekend. I don't want to completely shave and seem like I haven't been through puberty because I hear shaving all the way freaks some guys out... but at the same time I don't want a lot of pubic hair..
I shaved a couple days ago, and I'm seeing him Thursday night, I mean.. I wanna make sure I have no stubble . . but I don't know how to exactly groom myself to make it look nice.. should I just let it grow in, shave my bikini line?
That way it's not too hairy.. but there's no stubble.
I don't know.. any advice would be appreciated.
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trust me most guys are just happy to be having sex! but if you wanna look your best (which i'm sure you do if it's the 1st time with a new guy and all) then go for the safe option of having a small triangle or strip.. some guys like a 'full bush' some like no hair but you can guarantee that 99% of guys will be happy with a brazilian
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if i see porn or think about it when my legs are crossed and i kinda squeeze the muscles in my vaginal area i can have a orgasm is that weird???? HELP PLEASE (link)
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it's not weird at all, in fact most people would consider you really lucky that you can orgasm so easily!
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I sometimes feel like EVERYONE around me is pissing me off. I feel like everything they do or say irritates me and I end up feeling alone or aggitated. I also sometimes feel alone becasue I don't have many friends, they person I see or hang out with regularly is my boyfriend, his family and his friends! I feel like I should talk to someone proffessionally and maybe they could help me feel good about my place in life and maybe they can help me to react to things better. My issue is that most of the time if someone sees a therapist it may be a reflection that I have a problem, I may have some problems but I don't believe I have an actual mental problem. I want to go see a therapist but I do not know if I should, or how to book an appointment or how much it costs, or if its ccovered by O.H.I.P (CANADA). I also don't know how to tell my boyfriend. He means the world to me Ive been with him for 3 years, I know he would understand but I don't want him to think Im crazy? becasue I am seeing a therapist. I guess im CONFUSED! Please help! (link)
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OK first of all, don't worry! seeing a therapist doesn't make you crazy, so many people see therapists for all sorts of reasons! But by the sounds of things, you don't need a therapist, most people go through the same feelings as you at some point or another and usually it just takes a few lifestyle changes to feel good again. It sounds like maybe your not totally happy with your life? Being irritated by people around you is usually a sign that you're feeling discontent. Sometimes all it takes is sitting down and writing a list of things that you like about your life and things you don't like and want to change, then you can start to make those changes and soon be back to feeling good. This always works for me when I'm feeling lonely, bored or confused but if you want to see a therapist instead then I'm sure that will help too!
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