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To Leave Or Not To Leave
Ok, Here's the stitch.
My mother just got back together with her 3rd Husband, [the one that i cant stand] they breakup then makeup maybe 3 times a year...as soon as things start goin well he comes out of the blue and walks back into her life. My mom knows how much i hate him but she dosnt seem to care. She mostly just wants 2 make sure im not mad at her, she dosnt care that i dont want to be a part of the "family" im the only one in the way and its exhausting! I feel like a complete bitch because im not helping my mother in any way but what about her? When she and my stepdad got married i only met the man once and 7 days later they got married. My mother is the type that's better off without a man but dosn't seem to relize that....after about 3 months ago she and my stepdad got in a serious seperation. Divorce papers had been sent and everything my mothers alchol intake started to increase and she has a problem [alcholic] and i used to wake up finding her passed out or drunk on the bathroom floor. Im the one that finally told her to get ahold of herself and to be honest it was like she was a 5 year old again. and that it was my job to help her grow up. about 2 weeks ago he shows up and shes been sober 4 about 2 months now after a serious alchol poisioning accident. he came 2 tell her he loved her and was gone. i used 2 live with my grandmother until my mom figured out this alchol thing out... but now that her and my stepdad are back together and ive had 2 move back in things are going the same way they used to when she did drink but without the alchol, and its not fair to me. I've tried to talk 2 her but she disagrees and then grounds me 4 a week or 2. I've thought about moving to my fathers, he lives an hour away [the real one] but he really would make things easier. i havent talked to anyone about this because im really scared starting my life over and things have just gotten so bad that i cant take it anymore. im only 14 , a freshman... i cant deal with all of this its just too hard. i used 2 have a eating disorder and when my mother found out. she didnt even care. im not doing that anymore... im past that but if i move to my dads im leaving everyone i care about behind all my friends and the rest of my family. if i leave i cant come back, i know that. im really scared and i dont know what i should do. i know this could be the right thing and this would help me in general but if its a mistake what happens then? what do i do about that? my life has gotten so twisted and hard i know this isnt a part of being a teenager. this is somthing different and it would really help me out if some of you out there would give me some advice. sorry this is so long but its a long story to tell. im at a crossroads and i need some advice,
thanks.
sincerely,
The Confused Stepdaughter
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You poor little girl.
I'm 15 and a freshman too.
But i'm pretty mature for my age.
I've gone through the same things with you.
I can't give you a straight answer because i don't want to steer your wrong.
What does your heart say?
It's not healthy for you to be living like that.
Talk to a trusted adult.
Someone who cares and is understanding.
Not a friend. A adult.
A shrink.
IT hurts i know.
It really hurts and you wonder "why me."
BUt after a while and things clear up, you'll be asking. "Well why not?"
But don't loose hope and just hold on.
Try to get to know Christ.
If you don't already.
If will be life changing.
I will be hoping and praying for you.
I know what it's like.
I'm just now getting over my eating disorder.
I would starve myself.
But I would really like to stay in touch with you.
And talk to you.
Good luck.
Sincerely, Emma
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