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Should I sacrifice a friend for our happiness?
I have a 'friend'. We are both boys. His name is Kyle. The two of us are good friends i suppose. But I feel he doesn't exactly contribute to help me. I talk to him and everything. Give my input when he needs help. But its not mutual. We don't really have much of the same interests. He always criticizes the type of music I listen to, and what not. He irritates me sometimes. For example. He thinks he's too cool for school functions. We were talking about it. He said there was no way he would go to this show our school was putting on. But that night, when I went, he was there too. He wouldn't even spare a passing glance. I tried to let go of him. Sacrificing my happiness, for a better life for the both of us. But it is hard to when I really want him as a friend. He treats me horrible. Making me feel guilty. But when we are actually doing something together, we get along. However we usually do what he wants to do. I knew I could ask you, because you are the same age as me. So tell me, What would you do in this situation? Let go of a friend? Or Sacrifice him for happiness for the both of you?
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To me, he doesn't seem like that great of a friend. A friend shouldn't be putting you down, and it sounds to me he might even be trying to avoid you. He's obviously insecure about himself as well and tries to make you feel bad so he can feel better about himself. Here's my advice: don't give him that control. It's up to you to decide whether your friendship is worth trying to fix, but I will tell you that it probably won't last to long if he keeps acting like this. He wants to think of himself as cool, so he's changing himself around other people to be someone he isn't. Obviously, this guy's probably not going to have very many friends because none of them know who he truly is. I think you should talk to him. I know, it seems weird, but it is what I would do and have done before. Just tell him what's up. The next time you see him at a school event or at something else he was dissing earlier, confront him. Be like "Dude, what the heck? I thought you didn't want to come?". It's really great to catch them in the act because then they eventually have to tell the truth. If it were me, as I've been in this position before, I would drop-kick him to the curb (haha...) but if you really don't want to, then just confront him about what's bothering you. This guy isn't a true friend if he's making you feel bad and stupid. Hope I helped a bit!
-Jessica 14/f
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