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i made a stupid mistake
hey i really need help. i made a big mistake and i cant fix it now.im sorry that this is so long but please i dont know what else to try.
I was with this girl for a little over a year. we were friends for a long time before we started dating.but i made a stupid mistake..i always fought with her and called her some mean things. things she never deserved to be called. and i made our relationship horrible. but i never meant the things with her..i had something else bad going on in my life and it kinda got to me and i fliped at her every chance i got. i didnt mean it. i called her pretty much eveyrthing you can think of and i left her at a dance not long ago and she gave me alot of chances and this time shes sick of it and wants us to be done..i only left her that day because the problem i had stuck me like 2 mintues before i left to go with her and i got mad at everything she was doing there..i just really dont want to lose her over something as stupid as this..she really wants to be with me but shes afraid that im going to be like that again and she cant trust me and she just cant let herself be with me again..she cant talk to/hang out with me because she still has strong feelings for me and shes afraid she'll wanna be back with me and we hung out the other day and she kissed me twice..she said it was for closure and then she did it again and then pretty much made out with me..(idt u make out with someone for closure) but please i just need some advice on how to get her to trust me again and give me another chance (like girls put urself in her shoes and what would u want right now) please im begging at this point..this is the girl i want to be with for the rest of my life and its killig me..i messed up alot and she gave me many chances and now that the problem is out of my life she wont give me another one. how do i get her to trust me..how do i get her to hang out with me and let me show her i changed..i messed up and i really need help please. only answer if you think you can really help.
thanks so much
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Okay, wow!
um... I kind of understand what she is going though. My boyfriend and I recently broke up, because I didn't like the way he was treating me (calling me certain names). I mean, we are still close friends, but I couldn't take it anymore.
She sees the pure good you, but all the trash that covers you up is what you are projecting to her. You need to try to get the other problems that you are trying to solve under control. You screwed up, but I think you can get her back. You need to let her (and you) be single for a few months, and seriously think about your feelings for each other. You each did something wrong. She made out with you for your "break up", and you called her cruel names. You should tell her exactly what you just said, and help her understand that you REALLY mean it, and you miss her like crazy. She may not get back with you, but give her some time (like 2-3 months). Then ask her out and see how that goes, but get your other problems under control first. I bet you are a great guy, and I hope things work out for you.
~Sky
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I think you F****D up big time!! If i was her i'd be really hurt too! No girl wants to be spoken to like crap! Shes hurting right now because she loves you and you've done nothing but treat her like garbage. If you are ready and willing to change tell her you want a trial relationship with her for now so you can have a chance to prove yourself. If she agrees then you have alot of work to do. BUT if you screw it up just one more time that would more then likely be it!
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Before you can make it work with her, you need to get your feelings under control. No matter how big or little the problem was you were having, it shouldn't have been put on her. Even if this problem is over, what about when another one you can't handle happens? Will you go off on her again like you have been? If you want to make a relationship work with anyone, you are going to need to get yourself some help getting things under control. It is not normal for people to deal with problems the way you have been, I really urge you to talk to someone and find out what is happening. You could have some underlying condition causing this, like being bi-polar for example, that is fueling you. Good luck, and please look into it for the sake of your relationship.
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well, it might help me help you more if i knew what the hard things you were going through were. But, i'll try anyway. You obviously really like this girl. But ask yourself, is it really going to get better just because this issue is out of my life? I'm not trying to judge you, just think about it. Also, put yourself in her shoes. She must be sooo frustrated. She likes you a lot and she keeps getting hurt. Can you blame her for not wanting to do it anymore? Have you talked to her and explained maybe why you treated her so badly? Does she know everything? If not, tell her! It will help her make a decision if she knows exactly where your coming from. I hope this helps. Good Luck!
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