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Confident
14/f
How do I be more confident with myself? I have low self-esteem and I sometimes think I'm one of the ugliest girls in the world. Deep down I know I'm not. I mean, I've gotten plenty of compliments from guys and other people. Its just I'm shy, not really shy but I am shy. If I'm with my friends I can be really loud but when I'm not with people I know or talk to they think I'm shy and that leads to alot of people not wanting to talk to me because they will think I won't talk back. When they do talk I answer but with a normal answer like yes or no. I can never think of anything else to say. I know I'm gonna get something like, "speak up more in class and be open or whatever" I've tried, plenty of times. What should I do? I mean my friends aren't always gonna be there and I'm gonna need to make more. I have and I'm surprised at how many friends I have now but what should I do? Thanks so much for any help!
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well its not your fault its who you are and its impossible to change that.everybody feel more comfortable around people they know when talking to someone pretend there one of your friends are something.you can be shy and mysteries and still talk to people you don't need to be loud.try raising your hands in class cause if your raising you hands in class people will know that you can talk remember that only smart people ask questions.just smile to people and have fun a little smile can go a long way.and if someone has spoken to you before in any way just say hi when you see them hi cant hurt anybody.as for the confident thing its going to take a lot of work and dedication one thing you should do is look in the mirror and tell yourself that your beautiful every morning or every time you walk pass the mirror are just give yourself a confident smile .take care of yourself and know that your beautiful in your own way and thats what makes you unique.good luck
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17/F
Yeah I used to have a real problem with being quiet when I was younger too. I'm still quiet and standoffish to some people, it depends on who it is and how I'm feeling.
What helps is that you can get involved in a club or something that makes you talk to other people. Maybe you could be a ticket cashier at a school Basketball game or something like that. I used to be very depressed me freshman year when I was fourteen for a couple of reasons, and I felt very lonely. But I started to open up and my confidence has grown a whole bunch since then. LOL, but let's not get crazy and say that I like to speak in front of groups of people, because I sure as heck don't. Still, being quiet is good soemtimes....People will think you're more mature if you know when to be quiet. I'm a black girl that went from a white school and started going to a black school last year. I was QUIET for like a month, and then I started talking a lot more comfortably after I got to know my surroundings. It's annoying when there's a lot of loud little girls around you, and they're very immature. I've been told that I'm calm and collected, quiet sometimes but I'm fun to be around. I decided to be a manager for the boys' basketball team this year, and it's been a great experience. It's made me meet and talk to more people almost every day.
ERm, but yeah, I hope my advice has helped you. I'm sure as you get older you'll get more confidence as well. Just try to be more easygoing and smile a lot when others are around. You don't even have to talk a whole lot; as long as you at least look welcoming to talk to, people will talk to you more. And try to get involved in things that will make you talk to other people, different kinds of people.
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