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ex best friend going to my church!
so me and B were friends for three years, and then she started really messing up her life. she even ran away once, and her whole family was on my case because they thought i was hiding something, which i wasnt. i was just the last person to talk to her.
so a few months ago, im at my bf's house and she calls and starts yelling at me because i didnt tell her i had a boyfriend. which, to me, thats no big deal. she dates a new guy every week, and i dont even know about half of them until their long gone. and like i really care, anyways...
and then about a month ago, she texts me asking if i wanna come over. i told her i was staying the night at my bf's house. and she gets pissed and tells me that im neglegent and that i have no time for my friends anymore. and thats not true. i make plans with a lot of my friends, going to my bf's house is just a last resort on a boring day, and she had just asked at a bad time. i tried to tell her this, and she cussed me out and then i just stopped answering her calls and texts.
then a few weeks ago, she started going to my church!!!! luckily, ive gotten out of going to church for a few weeks because my dad doesnt have to play in the choir. but hes gonna start up again soon and i absolutely HAVE to go. B has been sitting right behind my family for the past couple of weeks and i really dont wanna see her.
how do i cope with her? i dont wanna be her friend anymore. i am 110% COMPLETELY sick of her, and i dont know how to deal with her at church. especially since and i cant cuss her out and dump her in a sanctuary. -.-''
can someone tell me how i can avoid her? or just tell her i hate her guts...without putting it like that? (PS, i dont have any friends at my church, so dont tell me to just go sit with someone else)
im so sorry this is long. O.O thanks for any advice!!
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I don't go to church myself, but I would assume that if you go to church, you're there for a church service, and you shouldn't be talking during the service anyway. Focus on that and don't talk to your ex-friend. Sitting right at the front might help with this.
Also, if your family is there, why not just sit with your family?
That said, if your ex-friend is someone you're likely to see in your everyday life, you can't avoid her forever. Make it clear to her that you want to be left alone. If she won't listen to you in person, text or email the explanation to her. Avoid cussing because this will only add to the anger between the two of you.
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You sit with your family and let her sit with her own. Sounds like she has a screw loose to me. Let them deal with her.
If you no longer want to be friends with her, you are going to have to just tell her that. It doesn't have to involve cussing or being nasty on your part.
If she hasn't gotten that message already, simply say "I no longer want to hang out with you or be friends with you."If she throws a screaming fit, so be it. You don't have to do the same thing.
It doesn't matter where you do it. School, church or the parking lot. Outcome is the same.
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