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He texts me daily but we never hang out
I'm 19 and a female.
This guy I like got out of a 2 year relationship about 5 months ago. When I told him that I like him he told me that he isn't looking for a relationship right now and that I'm a very nice girl. His ex treated him badly and used him so I can understand why he doesn't want a relationship now. I backed off after that, but he texts me daily and usaully initiates the conversations. I would love to hang out with him but I haven't said anything because I already did enough by revealing my feelings. I figure if he wants to hang out he would ask me, especially now that he knows how I feel. What should I do? Does it seem like he is interested?
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First, I think he is interested. At the very least he's thought about it - you have to be coming to his mind for him to be texting you in the first place, especially so regularly.
Second, my advice slightly differs depending on what kind of person you are -- how quick do you fall in love and how hard? If you start hanging out with this guy in the very near future and after a few months he's not intereted, are you going to be devistated? If the answer is yes then I would wait until he asks you to do something, especially if he knows you like him. If he doesn't want to meet up, you may save yourself a ton of hard heart-break. If you think you can handle it my suggestion would be to try go get him to go out casually. Like if he text you and you are free at that time, text him back and be like, man, I'm soooo bored, you wanna get a coffee or something. If he says no, he can't, then give it a few days to a week then invite him out with a bunch of your friends, when they're going out to do something too. If he says no again, then I'd then start to wait until he asks you to hang out.
Lastly, if you can get him out, the first few times I'd just be super friendly and nice. Make sure he knows you're a sweet person and not like his ex. A couple more time later get more flirty with him and see if he flirts back. Hopefully he will and hopefully you end up at one of those awkward moments like when he drops you off and he gets the urge to kiss you goodnight.
Long and the short of it all, see if he'll meet, flirt a bit and hope for the best. Sometimes breakups for people take a long time to get over, 2 years is quite a while to be dating.
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It seems that he already values you as a friend an you already have an "in." He seems interested but probably is not wanting a relationship. It is understandable. Try inviting him to hang out with you and a group of friends. This way, he won't feel nervous to come because it is just you two. It will look more casual and he won't feel like you are trying to push things along
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