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stuggling with two guys, please read all this and help me!
okay, i have been dating this guy(mark) for about 4 months now and i dated him for about 4 months a year and a half ago. im going to discribe him, and some things he does and how he makes me feel and stuff, and i want help if i should stay with him because, after we broke up i dated this guy(Alan) for 8 months and it was perfect.. just read on
- Mark got me to cheat on Alan with him when mark dumped his girlfriend.
- Mark cheated on me with my cousin and stayed with her for a year and a month.
- Mark wont get a job because he says " he doesn't no how to do anything" he did graduate from high school, but he has a social problem..
- Mark smokes about an 8th of weed every 2 days..
- If i want sex Mark says sometimes "only if you smoke with me first(then he says Just Kidding)
- Sometimes Mark gets mad about nothing like this past weekend he was sitting on my couch nothing like bad happened we were watching tv and out of no where he got mad and says it feels like you don't love me anymore.. it took me over an hour to get it out of him what was wrong.. he said it was because i don't kiss him anymore or hold his hand.. i hold his hand and kiss him nonstop.
- he gets jealous ALL the time, im still friends with Alan and so i talk to him on the computer if he sees me talking to him or any guy he gets mad.
- I lost my virginity to Mark, and he was my first love.
- he always tells me im pretty and he loves me more then anything and never wants to lose me
- he says cute little things all the time
- he picks me up everyday afterschool at the bustop and i go to his house
- friday he comes to my house untill monday so i see him everyday
- i love his family to death there amazing
- his sister is my best friend
now alan
- i fell in love with him we dated 8 months he loved me, i broke his heart when i broke up with him
- i only saw him outside school once or twice a month or every other month if that
- his parents don't like me, there really strict
- he has a job and car
- i can tell he could care less about sex, compared to mark who wants it all the time(not saying i don't like it..)
- alan and i never fought not once that whole 8 months except when i broke up with him
- he works a lot
- his siblings don't really like me
- he made me feel amazing always telling me he loved me
- i went on vacation with him, and vise versa
- i took his virginity
now i am so lost, i no this is a desprite thing to do, ask strangers but if you took the time to read this i apprecate it im going through a lot right now and i just need help i feel like i CANT break up with Mark even though i still love alan and think about him, but i love mark just the same... HELP!
mark= 19 years old
me= 16 years old
alan= 17 years old
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Mark won't be going anywhere soon and he's got emotional problems, something that I don't think you are prepared to handle.
Alan sounds like a great guy, but his family doesn't like you. Why? What is it about you that they don't like? They may have very high standards for their son and feel you don't have the same standards. They certainly have influence over their son and it sounds to me like they've done a very good job raising him.
Here's the advice...drop Mark. Emotional problems, combined with the fact that he smokes pot and had sex with you (at 16, no less), plus, it is illegal for him to have sexual relations with a minor.
If you want to get on Alan's parents good side, I would not sleep with Alan. In his world, girls who do that are not respected, no matter how much he says he loves you, you will be replaced at some point. So turn a new leaf.
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choose Alan. i'm guessing you want reasons:
1. you don't date your best freinds brother, i know you already are but you shouldn't.
2. mark is far too jealous
3. mark is far to needy
4. who cares if Alan's family don't like you
5. Alan seems to care more about you than just having sex
6. mark smokes weed, and tries to get you to aswell
7. and heres the deal breaker, HE CHEATED ON YOU WITH YOUR COUSIN!!!
i just hope you don't think any of that's too harsh but i'm just taking information from what you said.
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