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Mom issues
So I used to have way more freeedom than any of my friends. I got a cellphone at 13, a car & a credit card at 16. Of course I met the "wrong" guy and did a lot of things behind my parents back and they found out. well now im 18 and they basically lock me up in the house. they bring me to school & to work and pick me up. they don't want me to speak to any of my friends or hang out with any of them. mainly because my Ex totalled my car and my parents are mad about that.
but anyways, since im 18 now I deff want to move out & I know its not that easy just to move out and survive by myself but honestly I rather live alone than have my mom up my back about everything I do.
So, ideas?
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Don't burn your bridges.
You showed yourself to be untrustworthy, and its going to take time and effort to work through that. More teenaged rebelliousness isn't going to do anything but give you stuff to regret down the line.
You do need to talk to your parents. You haven't said how long its been like this, but I doubt you've been suffering this for more than a few months, else I have a feeling you'd be lamenting your loss of freedom for half a year or more. It sounds like you're just chafing under authority.
Living on your own is HARD. The world isn't too friendly to people who only have enough credentials to get a shitty hourly wage job. Ten bucks an hour will barely pay rent and food, it won't pay for much else, including anything fun.
I share bills with my girlfriend, we live together, and its still hard. You'd be amazed how much just eating every day twice a day can cost when you start adding it up over the course of a month, and I'm not talking about eating out, I'm talking about grocery shopping. My girl and I spend just as much on food a month as we do rent, which amounts to 125 a week on our budget.
125 can disappear really fast. We eat alot of sandwiches and frozen crap.
I'm telling you this because your desire and need for freedom could get you into some really shitty situations, and you need to grow up alot really quick or you're going to screw yourself over in the long run by moving out.
What you NEED to do is go to your parents and tell them that this is driving you up the wall. That you understand that they don't trust you, but losing your ability to be with friends and connect with people your own age is not healthy for you. You need to ASK them what you can do to start proving that you learned from your retardedly huge mistake, and tell them that you want to prove to them that you are worthy of trust.
You need to approach them from a "I want to work with you to get my privleges back and to get your trust back" standpoint.
That would show maturity and growth on your part. If you move out (I can guarantee you haven't thought that through very much if you're seriously considering it) you are just proving them right.
Trust me when I say, no, you wouldn't rather live on your own. Talk to your parents more, swallow your pride and anger, and show them a little love and understanding and gratefulness for the things they have given you so far.
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i know everybody hates this kind of advice but, talk to your mum, and make sure she knows you want to move out. or else you want a bit more freedom. and make sure she knows that because of that guy you're going to be more careful. x
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