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Stepson is not working and his father is paying his bills!
My husbands son lives with us. He did have a job but got fired because he didnt go to work. He is 19 years old and at this time is not even looking for a job. He sleeps until noon or even later. Does nothing to help around the house, eats, sleeps, and does whatever he wants when he wants.
When he was working, he paid for his own cell phone bill and his car insurance. Now that he is not working anymore my husband says we are going to pay these bills until he gets a job. The problem?? He is not even looking for a job. It has been over 2 months now, and I am tired of paying over an extra 100 dollars a month for HIS bills. We can barely pay our own let alone his! My husband and I have fought and fought over this issue. I work full time just like my husband does. I dont feel like I should have to keep helping out a 19 year old, when he does nothing! What can I do??
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Hello,hmmmm issues with money is diffivult especially in this rough economic state:(.I am sure you have spoken to him about this a numerous amount of times,if not you have to seriously sit down with him and have a heart to heart and tell him exactly how you feel. I am not sure if he knows what a burden he is putting on you guys and how this is effecting your life in many ways. After all he is still young and thinks everything should be easy and handed to him. I do not agree with your husband about paying your step sons bills, he is an adult and it is his responsibility to pay for his assets. A compromise must be made in order to get anything done,he has to know that everything will not be handed to him on a silver platter all the time especially when he gets out in the real world, he has to realize that he has responsibilities and realize that he is an adult I doubt if he realizes this. Honestly I think he needs to learn the hard way, you should not pay for ANY of his bills that is just too much for you,he should maybe even make his own meals because right now he is not showing any qualities that he can live on his own and support himself which is what is going to happen eventually,it is vital that he learns to be an adult now and know that he has to be independent. About getting a job, it is very difficult to get motivated to even go look for a job when you have been laying around the house and being lazy he probably feels he has no need to get a job because he is being fully supported by you guys. However if youtake some of the priveleges away and make him to do things on his own he will see how vital it is that he man up and try harder to get a job. Im not sure if he understands that in order to get things you have to try your best. Remember communication is key and try to get the point across that even though he is living with you he still needs to suport himself, you guys are giving him a roof over his head that is very generous of you...I hope this was helpful...the best of luck to you and if you need any other advice and I wasnt detailed enough you are welcome to send me another message I would be happy to help!!!
SINCERLY,DIAMOND:)
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