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My boss wants me to spy on a fellow co-worker....

Question Posted Tuesday January 27 2009, 2:32 pm

I am a 35 year old married woman. I just started my job less that 6 mos ago. My boss tells me way too much information. He told me that he wants to "get rid" of another employee. He asked me to spy on her and to inform him when this employee has a visitor in her office. He informed me and another young lady to do things to irritate this other employee so that she will eventually quit. I think this is wrong and I do not agree but I feel like I'm stuck. He gossips way too much. I am there to do my work and I don't have time for this foolishness. By the way, my boss is over 50 years old. I am surprised he behaves this way. I have excused myself from the conversations but this doesn't seem to work. How do I politely excuse myself?

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NeedaBuck answered Friday February 20 2009, 7:04 pm:
I think you should tell your boss, how uncomfortable you feel being put in this situation. Because your boss can and probably will turn on you in time also. Don't compromise your INTEGRITY & SELF RESPECT for someone elses evilness doing.

I speak with experience. I work in an office setting where people all around me lie, cheat, gossip an bully their way around everyday. I don't trust them and they don't care for me, but that's okay. I am there to do an honest day work. Not play around and act childish. Although I do joke around a lot :)

When you/we are hired by a company, you and that company agree that you will perform a job and in return be compensated for your services. In other words we go to work to work. Anything outside of that is irrelevant.

Don't lower your moral standards for some bastard that ain't got the nerve to step up and act like an adult. Don't play those games. Because you never know when it will come back to bite you in your ass.

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AnonymousGirlxx answered Wednesday January 28 2009, 12:18 pm:
Unfortunately, you have no choice but to search for another job whilst employed at this job.

Even if the co-worker you have mentioned decides to leave under the strain, who is to say that he won't do it to you, or decide to do it to another co-worker?

You need to decide whats best in the long run, you will be stressing yourself out far too much if you keep heading to work with the same thoughts of, what is he going to do/say today.

I hope you can figure something out.
If their is anyone higher than your boss, like an owner of the site you work on, I would find out what their position is and whether they can take action, and maybe pass them on this information, but be sure to check that the other lady he has been asking to help you, will stick by you and say yes this is the case, he has been asking me to do the same things.

Good Luck. xA-Mx

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