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Army bound??
Im 20/f and my girlfriend is considering joining the army. We have been together for 2 yrs and now have an apartment together. She has thought about joining before but now she is serious about it and its because her friend (who is also her ex girlfriend) is going. I see her reasoning for going and all the perks that would come along with her joining but I dont want her to go. And it kind of hurts my feelings that she's more worried about her friend going to the army then she is about leaving me behind. She knows I dont want her to go but I told her that whatever she decides I would support her. I just dont know how to handle this. I mean, she does talk about it bettering us and coming back to me and everything but I know that she would be gone for quite a while and there is always a chance she wouldnt come back to me. I want to be supportive and I want her to know that whatever she decides I will be here and I will love her but I dont want her to feel like Im perfectly fine with her going. i just dont know how to find a happy medium. I dont know.. This is just real tough and any advice would be appreciated. Thanks
P.S.- I would love to hear from people who have had their significant other go away to the military and how they handled it. But any help is appreciated.
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hey there!
what you need to do is reassure her that tgoing to military is not fine with you. since you want her to know that you support her, maybe she has decide to do it because og that. what you need to do is tell you girlfriend that it is not okay with you. let her know how uncomfortable you are. and please do it fast before you ose her.
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This is something I may be looking into myself, and if she's been talking to a recruiter I would just go to see him myself.
I'm sure that you can travel with her to where she's stationed, and maybe even still go to school. In the least make a few bucks, have a place to gather, and a nice life. I bet that could work out so well.
Talk to her recruiter. It's the military after all.
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I've never had a significant other go away to the army but I couldn't even begin to imagine how hard it would be so I do have to say you are very brave.
If I were in your situation, being supportive is almost all you can do. It's something you have to be very strong about (and it seems like you are) If she know's how you feel - let her know you will love her no matter what. It hurts you so much that she's leaving but if thats her dream and what she truely wants then you support her 110%. As far as the ex goes - if they broke up on good terms, there's a reason she's her ex so you should have nothing to worry about. Good Luck!
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