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Breaking up with a Guy
Heres the deal.... my boyfriend just broke up with me and we had been going out for a little more than a year. This really hurt because he did not say exactly why. He was not perfect but I loved him. I need some advice on how to get through this because I am really hurting right now and could be use some support. What can I tell myself that will make me feel better?
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It's heartbreak and you have a right to feel the way you do, dont let anyone tell you different. But here is how to make it better...
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People have a habit of remembering only the good times, but whenever you start missing him in that way, think of all the shitty things in your relationship, (there were some, you were dating for more than a year so there had to be some things that bugged you) Whenever you feel like you miss him, remember that time he insulted your friend or picked a fight with you.
#2
You are free. Being single isnt the worst thing in the world. You can flirt, stay out late, not check in with him, you can try new things, clubs, classes... hang out with your friends and not worry about what "he" thinks.
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The best way to cope is to live well. Think about how shitty you would feel if you ran into him in a few weeks and saw him doing well with another girl on his arm. Now turn the tables and picture what he will think when you are looking good living life possibly with someone else on your arm
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Don't worry about the loneliness. That is just your brain trying to fill the void. Give it time. Don't worry... you got him, you can get another one.
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keep your slef busy
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i agree that you should try to stay busy with friends and such. i'll assume that you're in school and/or have a job. if so, focus your attention on that. this sounds really cheesy but i promise it does work. every morning when you get up, say one positive thing about yourself. it'll help your self-esteem and you'll start to not feel so down about losing him, because you'll see that he's the one that f-ed up and it's his loss. cry when you need to, dont hold it in. most importantly dont dwell on it and wonder what might have been. i read somewhere that you can moap around one day for every month you were together, then after that, get out there and start talking to/meeting some guys! you dont have to try to date yet or anything like that, just talk to them. they can lift your mood and it really does help. and just remember that you will love again, i promise. if it's meant to be it will be, if it's not, then there's someone out there that's better for you =]
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I'm going through something similar right now as well. It's not easy. Just tell yourself that whats meant to happen happens. If you're meant to be together then it'll work out that way, if not then theres someone better out there making their way to you :) This is a great time to get your girlfriends together and have fun with them. Stay busy and when you feel like crying, just cry, because it's alright to do that. Let out your emotions, don't bottle it up because thats what makes it harder to move on.
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"It'll all get better in time"
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