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take it to the next step
f/16, boyfriends 16
been dating for 7 months, known eachother for 3 years
theres no question that i love him, during thepast 7 months we've been through more and made it through it, between him moving an hour away and me being hospitalized for 2 months for an eating disorder
and were still strong
i feel more comfortable around him than anyone, we basically know eachother inside out
right now were basically at the hj/fingering stage i guess but we've spoken a lot about going farther and what not
basically due to all my insecurities it felt that i wasn't ready, and the fear of him leaving and the rest of it
basically the other night we were making out, but like really, really going at it and he asked me if i wanted to go to the next level
i said not tonight
at this pont though there really is no reason for me to be so uptight about it and like i want to, but im afraid to? i guess
any advice on how to just not be so worried maybe?
btw my boyfriends the best and not pressuring me or anything, and he really was fine that i said no, but i feel at this point i should? he's been there for me through everything
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Wow, you sound exactly like me about a month ago haha. At that point, I'd been with my boyfriend almost 9 months, and even though he never pressured me, I felt like we should be at the point where we did stuff like that. I wanted to and everything, but was afraid. And then I finally decided to take the next step. It was a little scary, but not nearly as much as I'd expected. So if you think you're ready, then go ahead and try it. It's not as scary as you think. But it's also ok if you still want to wait. I can tell he loves you and won't pressure you, so you have absolutely nothing to worry about either way. :)
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Its up to you. If it doesn't feel right, then don't.
Theres no rush, and it sounds like he loves you and is perfectly willing to wait.
If he's not rushing you, why are you?
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It seems likeyou may pressuring yourself. think about if you really want to or not. if you choose yes, you will probably be nervous at first but once you get into it you wont feel nervous anymore. if you get to that stage and you decide you dont feel comfortable, just dont do it. theres no rush, wait until you are ready. hope i helped<3
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Well, there is nothing wrong with you having a fear of him leaving after you guys have gotten intimate. In fact, many females have this idea... Some due to past experiences... So don't worry. My advice is, just follow what you want to do. A relationship is based out of love, trust... but also protect yourself and your heart first. If you feel you aren't ready, don't pressure your own self into it! As time passes by, you will get more and more comfortable with him, even more comfortable than now, trust me. Sex isn't important. So just stick to what you feel comfortable doing. When you're ready, you will flow right through it. Have you told him this fear you have? Maybe he can reassure you on his love for you, as a good boyfriend would. good luck!
flirty :)
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