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I know people get annoyed with this question...
14/f
Ok so I know there's a million questions like this, but I kind of need help... So there's this boy that I haven't exactly noticed before-I don't know why, because he's really popular, funny, smart, nice, and HOTT-but lately I've seen him staring at me. Like at this school dance, I was laughing and dancing with my best friend and one of my guy friends, and I looked over and he was just staring. Then this other time at lunch, my friends and I were being really silly and we were playing with glitter (lol...) and I looked up and saw him staring at me again! And those aren't the only times either...now that I'm aware of him, I see him out of the corner of my eye a lot. And it's not creepy staring or anything. We don't really talk all that much, either, but sometimes we're paired in groups together in classes, and he always starts to sound really nervous and giddy almost... So now I think I like him, like a lot, now. So here are my questions: 1. Does the whole staring/giddy thing mean he likes me? 2. How do I let him know I like him, WITHOUT talking to him? 3. How do I get him to ask me out?? I'm REALLY not into the whole me-asking-a-guy-out thing...besides, I really don't know this guy all that much. I've never had a boyfriend either, so I don't even know how to ask someone out anyways, so please don't tell me to go for it... But I could use some help! Thanks.
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1) Almost certainly yes.
2) Walk up to him, smile, make eye contact, and ask him how he's doing. Continue conversation in whatever way you see fit. Do this daily until he asks you out.
3) See above. Make yourself available to him. Smile at him when you see him. Make eye contact while smiling. Encourage him to talk by asking him questions about anything you think he'd have more than two words to say about.
It sounds like he's your age. 14. That means that he is inexperienced enough to feel very nervous.
Add to the fact that being nervous apparently makes him goofy and slightly retarded around you, and we have a confidence problem.
You solve this by giving him positive feedback.
Eye contact is essential. Eye contact tells a guy "I like looking at you". Smiling is also a good general positive response. It lets him know you aren't bored, or repulsed by him.
Also, break the touch barrier. The simplest way to do this is through humor. Getting him to tell a joke (or just taking advantage of him telling one on his own) or teasing him can work equally well.
Say you tease him a bit (remember to smile, so he knows you're kidding) and when he responds, smack him on the arm lightly.
You just sent him terabytes of information, mostly in the form of "HOLY CRAP SHETOUCHEDMESHETOUCHEDMESHETOUCHEDME!" but also he becomes aware that he might be allowed to touch you back. This creates more interest, and opens the door to other forms of casual affection. Hugs, pokes, slaps, pushes, etc.
He should get the message eventually. If he doesn't, you should gain enough comfort yourself by interacting with him that you can blush and throw out the "so are you going to ask me out, or what?" line. I've never seen that fail coming from a girl, so if you work up the courage you're almost 100% assured success.
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since you've never had a boyfriend, you probably dont know that GUYS ARE TOTALLY IMPOSSIBLE. the staring giddy thing might mean he likes you. but from what you've said above, you were doing pretty weird stuff while hes staring at you. so maybe he was just looking over and thinking "wth?" or maybe he DOES like you. you never know. and no one ever will. like i said, guys are impossible.
whatever you do, do NOT get your friend to go over and ask him if he likes you. thats so elementary. and dont get your friends to gang up on him and ask him to ask you out. thats middle school. you're in highschool now and need to handle this like you've been with boys all over the place. (im, like, reaaaaally hyper. so sorry if this is all coming out in a rush ^.^)
so whenever you see him staring at you next, why dont you go up to him and ask him why hes so stare-y. or, if its from across a room, mouth the word "what?" to him, and that should make him stop, and also totally off the track that you like him. ;) but maybe once or twice, no matter how much your stomach will hurt just thinking about it, go up to him and say hey. start a conversation. maybe if you two start talking more and he DOES like you, then maybe he'll ask you out, so you wont have to. :)
oh wait you said without talking to him. well, you know TALKING to a person doesnt really necessarily mean you like them. i mean, really. whatever person thinks that every boy and girl who comes up to them to talk likes them is a big stupid head. ^.^
hope i helped. and good luck i wish you the bestttt!!!
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