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I don't know what to do? I fell like a traidor and a whore.. =(
well my cousin recently seperated from her husband and went to live with her parents for a while. one day i call her up and she tell asks me to call him and tell him to call her since she ran out of credit on her phone. i call him and tell him to call her but it was already and we began to talk about something that happend a week before. i stayed at there house one night and i slept in there bed with them. i didn't have any intentions of anything but he kinda put his hand in a certain place and i didn't stop him, so on the phone we talk about it and he picks me up and i go to there house, but my cousin wasn't there since she stayed at her parents. so we have sex and i stayed the night. in the morning she drops in and he jumps up the bed and lucks the door, so i stayed trapped in there as she knocks and knocks and cries and yells for 3 hours and than he finally takes her to her parents and i sneak out. so everyone in the family knows he cheated, but they don't know its me. but i kinda think she suspects its me. :S i don't what to do? act normal? tell her the truth?
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I would tell her the truth because if she finds out without you telling her, she will never trust you again and you will have hurt her very bad. It's good just to get the honest thing that happened out. Tell her you are sorry and explain that you never wanted to hurt her. Hope this helps! Good luck!
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Feeling like a traitor and a whore acknowledges admittance that indeed you did something wrong. In all honesty what you did was really atrocious. I won't get into details the accounts of the things that you did. Because I know deep inside that you recognize it. You cannot act normal when you know there's this ugly secret lurking behind. Guilt is something that can eat you alive. Be responsible enough to accept what you did and admit it to her. You owe your cousin that much. Don't cover the errors that you did by making another mistake. Good luck and I wish you the best.
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There are two things to consider here. First-does your cousin want to know? What happens if you tell her and then it just separates her more from her family and support system? This guy played you, so you should stay away from him as far as possible. A lot of times when a relationship is going down hill, a guy will use another girl in order to make his girlfriend/wife jealous so she won't leave. I'll bet that once she caught wind that he was with another girl, she came back to him to prevent him from being with someone else. They probably have a long history of playing games like this in their relationship, and unfortunately you got caught in the middle. You say that every one in the family knows what is going on, so you have to talk to someone about what your next step is. If you totally avoid it, you are going to look like you are the one responsable for this, and everyone is going to think they can't trust you with their husbands. Talk to a person in your family who knows the situation and ask their advice. If you have a male cousin, or uncle, or even your father, they might be less likely to judge you and gossip, where as the women might react differently. They aer probably going to tell you that you should come clean with your cousin. It would probably be best if the person you talked to could be there to mediate. Know that no matter what, the husband is going to try his best to make it look like it was all your fault, but he is the one who came to pick you up. When you do talk to her, try not to spend a lot of time defending yourself, because it will come across as if you don't think you did anything wrong. Admit that you made a huge mistake and got caught up in the whole mess. She is going to ask you some hard questions, and you are going to have to answer them honestly. Tell her that you are ashamed of your actions, and even let her know that some of it might be because you are a little jealous of her. Keep in mind that if she chooses to stay with this guy she is going to try to badmouth you and make it look like you are the one who seduced him in order to defend her decision to stay. This is why you are going to have to admit what happened to your family, and take responsability for your part. From now on, remember that when people are breaking up you should stay far away. Think about your relationships. Have you ever had a guy who was leaving you, so you try to make him jealous with other guys? This is what has just happened to you. Your cousins husband used you, and you don't want to be used by anyone. When people are breaking up it is a good idea to stay as far away as possible. I'm sorry that you are in this situation, but you are not a whore, you are just an innocent person who got caught in the middle of other people's games. I wonder why she called you to have him call her, I mean, her parents didn't have a home phone? Do your damage control with your family, and tell them that you feel as if you did the wrong thing, but you got caught up in the middle of a sick game. Good luck.
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