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Another guy problem... I know *sigh*
18/F Anyways here's my problem. I've been dating my boyfriend for three months and things are really great. It's just that lately I've had these feelings I've never had for anyone before, and mind you I've dated a few guys. I almost have this fear that he's going to go back to college and find someone else way prettier and smarter. I'm still in high school, and he's 22. I sort of have a problem of letting people get close to me, but for some reason I let myself become vulnerable around him. I've just started putting my guard down for people. I'm constantly thinking about him, and when I think about him my heart starts pounding faster and faster. I just would like to find out if he's feeling the same way without just coming out and asking him flat out. Anyways, please help me think of how to get over feelings of heartbreak because I'm also afraid if I keep feeling that way he'll end up dumping me. I have a very low self esteem on top of it all. Any help is appreciated.
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Okay, I'm going to be fully honest with you.
You may be having the "distant" feeling only because you've been hurt so many times before you are cautious and there is nothing wrong with that. However, There is really no way of knowing what is going to happen when he gets to college. If he truely loves and cares about you I'm sure he would never even attempt to find another girl. The only way to truely know is to sit down with him and have an open conversation about your concerns. Don't worry to much, Just stay calm. Talk to him, Let him know how you are feeling. Communication is always the key.
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You have to tell yourself that he is thinking about you while the two of you are apart, even if you're not sure. He is going to go away, regardless, and the only thing that you can control is how you act about it. Let's say that he goes away and is faithful to you. How long will that last if you question and haunt him? Plus, you'll have wasted all of that time worrying for nothing. If he goes away and cheats on you, harping at him isn't going to change the situation. If the two of you are having good, fun conversations, he will be far more likely to put a stop to any cheating. Remember, all of those college girls are going to be calling attention to your immaturity, so you don't want to prove them right by acting jealous and emotional. If you go about your own life missing him, yeah, but also having fun and being positive, he will want to hear your voice on the other end of the line. Long distance relationships are always difficult, and you should be able to talk about how you feel without dwelling.
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