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My boyfriend and I had a talk last night about..
My boyfriend and I had a talk last night about how he wants our relationship to go. Ironically, after we spoke about it, we watched That 70's Show and the episode was literally about exactly how he wants our relationship to go. He sent me some of the quotes once he got home. I don't really understand what he wants, so hopefully you can help me understand.
"See! Remember when our relationship was the most fun thing in our lives? And then we put all this pressure on it. Wish we could just...y'know just hang out and forget all about that stuff."
"Donna and I have decided we're not gonna talk about our relationship anymore!"
"It's going to be so great to be with Donna without all the talking and the decisions and labels. Y'know like am I your fiancé...y'know am I your boyfriend..."
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How old is this guy now? Seriously? The 70s Show? Lordy…
On one hand, it's not a good thing to be turning every get together with your boyfriend into a 'State of the Union' address. If you find yourself regularly asking him how he feels about you, or what the future has in store for you as a couple, then you ought to cool it. No one likes to have to be constantly picking apart and analyzing their own relationship.
On the other hand... Seriously! How old is this guy?
If he is a teenager, then he probably just wants a relaxing relationship he can have a good time with without constantly worrying about 'Where is it going?', and that is fair. But if this guy is a supposed adult who you see a future with, give up now and dump his sorry ass, because what he is really looking for is a 'non-relationship', regular sex and companionship without the messiness of a real connection and intimacy.
To sum it up:
If you are casually dating, or young teens, then what he wants is not to talk about ‘Us’ all the time, and that is a fair request. Cut him slack and find other things to talk about.
If you are very seriously dating, or thinking you might have a long-term thing with this guy, give up and dump him. He isn’t looking for a real long-term partner. He only sees you as a buddy.
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He's an idiot.
He wants the relationship to not be complicated.
To be more specific, what he wants is to remain in the honeymoon phase of the relationship permanently, a sure sign of an immature individual.
He isnt grown up enough to realize that relationships develop, become more complicated, and eventually that "oh we're so in love with each other constantly" feeling fades and is replaced with a deeper and much more important form of affection and love.
Basically, he has the relationship skills of a 13 year old and wants the relationship to remain that of a relationship between 13 year olds. Simple, uncomplicated, and shallow as hell. The sign of a truly immature male.
I mean, seriously, who quotes an episode of "That 70s Show" as an example of where they want a relationship to go? I expect the next installment of advice is going to be how to have a threesome and keep your relationship ok.
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As far as I can see, he just wants to try and have a perfect relationship, which isn't possible, but he's trying HARDER then usual. In one of the quotes I think it's saying that the minute you guys do fight, he wants the next minute to be all better because he doesn't like the fact at you two being mad at each other.
I actually think it's kind of cute how he put it.
Hope I helped.
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