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gaining trust back with my parents
ok so ive realy messed up this year, im 15 and at the begging of the year my parents trusted me completly the left me homealone for homecoming weekend, and i had a party they found out i was only grounded for a week, then i got pulled over for weed a mouth later i was gorunded for a mouth then the weekend i get ungrounded i stayed out past cerfew. and now all there trust in me is gone. i know i messed up but is there any way i can gain there trust back sooner??
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For one, I understand your "untrustworthy parent" situation, I think every person growing up goes through it at least once.
I will say though, if there is one thing I am good at, its getting my parents to recognize my appology. You have come to the right girl :-)
First, I would write a very thought out, and educated letter. And I'm not just saying for you to make it heartfelt, but not truely mean anything to you, try to actually write it from your heart. (trust me, parents CAN tell.) Make your letter appologetic, but not so much about "how you are going to punish yourself forever" type thing, they do not want to hear sympathy. :-)
After you have finished your letter, also I suggest you sit down and have a serious conversation with your parents, just about how you know that you really messed up, and you really are sorry (then before you go to your room or wherever, give them the letter.)
ALso, I think it would be a really nice thing for you to just start doing nice things around your house to help out your parents. For example, help your mom with the laundry, or dinner, folding cloths, shoveling the snow (depending on where you live, its snowing by me) anything that you can do will show them that you are trying to make up for what you did.
Something to keep in mind:
Give it a day or two...or three :-) before you ask your parents to go out again (and when you do ask to go out, try to make it a small get together not a huge party, this will get them to adjust.) Also, try to (if possible, because I know this can be tough,) when you go out, maybe come home a little earlier than your cerfew.
Good luck, tell me how it goes!
ps.
weed does nothing good for your life, or body, you shouldnt buy it anymore :-) and I have said that before to people that have questions on advicenators about weed and they have given me ratings of 3's because of it, (I am not occusing you of being one of those people that give lower ratings because of it, but just saying...) but to be honest, I dont care, its worth the rating if I could speak my mind, the only reason I am speaking my mind, is because I care about the people on here I am helping out (including you.)
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