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Insecure, Social Phobia and Self Esteem Issues...
I'm going to try very hard to exsplain this clearly. I have always been sort of a loner and I've never had many friends. I have been out of High School for almost 5 years now. Even nowadays whenever I see pictures of someone I went to High School with I still think to myself "She's so much prettier than me, I'm not good enough to be friends with that person, or I'm not even worth her/his time to even talk too." I think to myself...I'm just a loner, I'm fat, I'm ugly, and I'm just not cool enough or my all time thinking He/She will be quick to judge me. At times I've tried to build my confidence to talk to someone however once I spot a second of awkwardness I think to myself "Omg, I choked they don't like me...or I feel like such an outsider" Ugh, It's got to be so bad I don't even want to socialize and I'm turning into a Hermit.
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Everybody is different, that's what makes people unique. If someone doesn't like you for who you are then they wouldn't be worth your time. Outer appearance doesn't ensure friendship. You have to start focusing your attenion on all of your good qualities, that way you can gain more self confidence and maybe get out a little more and become more social. The more you think about the bad the worse you feel. Be yourself & be proud!
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Hm... well I wasn't much of a loner but I do know of some girls that kept to themselves a lot because of them being so self conscious. You should keep talking to people but try not to think of yourself as being awkward around them. Just mind what you say and do not be offensive. Just be yourself, you'll surely find someone out there that will accept you for who you are. Try getting a complete makeover in a way that would make you feel more confident about your looks. Just do not cover up too much with make up. The more natural one looks, the better and surely more attractive. Socialization is a part of a person's self-building. You should be around, in your years of college. Try talking to a few more people and try NOT to think negative about yourself. If they ask to meet you again, then you know your chat with them was successsful :] Hope that helped!
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Ah Ive benn throught this. totally not great.Um i would suggest going to a spa or whatever jus go and get a massage or something, it makes your feel refreshed.And really you should think about yourself in that way! If you keep on branding yourself as an outsider you really will be one.Um im really tired at the mo as its like midnight in the UK so im very tired. But siriously hun, try look on things differently, maybe take up a new hobby or join a social club? might give you a sence of purpose? (sorry if that sounded rude).Good Luck though and i hope you get sorted!vikki x
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