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My bf cant have sex
I am Jake's first gf. He is 19. He was always busy with studies and stuff before so he never interacted with too many girls let alone have sexual feelings for them. So he told me that he does have sexuAl desires but cant fulfil them as he cant have an erection. I'm not gonna leave him or annything coz I love him but then, I think in the long run it will get me frustrated. We do talk about sex and he does get turned on but without the erction. How do i deal with this? Is there any cure? What would you have done if you were in my place?
Thanks for the help... XOX
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A 19 year old shouldn't have a problem getting
an erection. If he does he has a medical problem
of some sort, or may possibly be gay and in denial.
There is usually always a cure with medical help.
Getting a guy to admit to needing help, and then
actually getting it, can be hard to do.
You are right in thinking it will cause problems long term. The longer you do nothing about a
problem like this, the easier it becomes to
ignore it. At your age, you honestly don't need
the frustration it will cause.
I think you need to see that he is getting
medical help for the problem. Make sure he
actually sees a doctor to try and remedy the problem. If he doesn't, you end it now before
you get involved any more. Sex isn't the main
reason for dating anyone. It is however a
healthy, normal part of an adult relationship.
I can't advise you to stay in a relationship
they will cause problems for YOU in the long
run, if it isn't dealt with now.
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ask him to see a doctor if he hasn't already.
in the meanwhile you can still do other things without him having an erection, you could still do foreplay like give him head and hand jobs .. he just wont get hard but it would feel the same to him. He could also pleasure you back and hopefully that could tie you over so you wont get frustrated with him.
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He should see a urologist to discuss the problem. Basically, the valves in his penis meant to trap blood to make an erection aren't functioning correctly. This allows all the blood to flow back out leaving a non-erect or semi-erect penis. It's not your boyfriend's fault.
He's 19+ so he can enter a condom store no problem. They sell rings that trap the blood inside of the penis to maintain an erection for intercourse. See the urologist and see about the product. It may change things.
You should also ask him if he gets an erection through self-pleasure or not. If he can't than what I've said above holds true. As far as how to deal with it until then be very patient, do other things together and keep trying. Go slowly as that may help but if it's medical and blood vessel related it won't but the rings could as they trap the blood.
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