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what should i do?
15/m I've been single for a year and a half now and i am not sure what to do. I have had offers but none of the ones that asked me really appealed to me. Does this mean i should try and ask ones i do want to go out with me? I hate getting rejected it leaves a knot in my stomach. The ones i ask out and reject me are always the ones i cant get out of my head. What should i do?
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Yes of course you should try for the girls that appeal to you. But if the ones that dont appeal to you ask you out then sometimes you should try. They might not be exactly what your looking for from just a glance but you have to get to know them before you judge them and turn them down. For the girls you like, try and hang out with them in a group setting so that you dont get turned down before they really know you. But also, you can't force somebody to like you so if they just don't like you back, move on and find somebody else.
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Maybe no one appealing has asked you, because they think that you dont want a girlfriend, seeing that you havent accepted any of your offers. Or maybe, they like you, but they're like yourself, and their afraid of rejection.
My advice, have a very close friend with you, that you never fight with, and doesnt make fun of you.
Sit down with him, and call the girl of your choice.
Say "Hey, this is -Jake-(example name). I was wondering if you'd like to catch a movie and dinner this friday/saturday night. My treat."
Give her time for her response, and if she rejects you, dont get all torn up about it.
--Accepts say "Thats cool, I'll pick you up/meet you there.
--Denies say "Oh, well I'm sorry to bother you, maybe some other time"
You have to think of rejection in other ways, maybe her parents wont let her date, or maybe she just doesnt feel like she's ready to date.
And when you think of rejection, dont think of it as harmful, think of it as she just wasnt for you.
Hope I helped
& Goodluck with those butterflies!
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I understand how you feel i personnal have been there but you know what i did i took the butterflies out of my stomach , look into the mirror and said i love myself so why should'nt him like me and look at the phone for 2mins and
said lord give me courage please don't let him turn me down and took an deep breathe and dail his
number and had small talk first and then ask him if he want to catch and movie&dinner or something
my treat. also always keep an back up number just in case you will have an backup plan so those other guys that like you they might not be interesting to you but those are the ones that you
can take home to mom.
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