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Iam so depressed!
Iam sorry iam giving you my whole life history but I don't have anybody to talk to and I need somebody to talk to. I hope you don't mind.
my life started being a living hell when my daddy molested me when I was 3 and then when I told my mom my mom left my dad a week before I turned 4 and up until I was 8 years old I wasn't allowed to see my dad at all by mom's rules and i know my mom was just trying to protect me but it just hurts when you think about stuff like that all the time and you have nobody to talk to about it becouse nobody other than your mom belives you and when you try to talk to your mom about your feelings she get's all upset and starts crying so you don't talk to her about it becouse you don't want to upset your mom anymore and then you don't feel loved becouse nobody wants to listen about my feelings. Things got a little better after I had turned 8 years old becouse then I was allowed to see my dad with supervision and that was better than not being able to see him at all. Then when I turned 12 my dad died from smoking and it tramatized me. I just couldn't handle it I cried myselft to sleep every night. I don't know why I still love and miss my daddy after what he did to me he was a total bastart but I still wish he could be in my life but he can't. Then when my dad died I started going to my dad's side of the family that I never hardly got to see and I got to do so much more at there house on the weekends and holidays than I did when I was at my mom's during the week and when I was over there I felt like was being treated like a normal teenage girl but when I was at my mom's house during the week and at the age of 16 I started getting into boys like the other teenage girls my mom wouldn't let me so much as talk to a boy on the phone without her bein on the other end but when I was at my Aunt's and cousins house I got to do the stuff that my mom wouldn't let me do. Iam 19 now and I actually have a dating life becouse I live with my cousin but I still can't talk to my mom about my dating life and it makes me feel sad.
what should I do?
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To be honest... i think you should tell her everything youve just told us. write it down maybe?
and well done for letting it out like that, that must have been hard to type and even harder to actually go through, well done.
Your mum has got to face that your growing up, its a fact that all mums will have trouble grasping this. They always want their baby girl. Your not a kid anymore your 19! the fact that this stuff is haunting you and depressing you aitn good, you siriously need to tell your mum if its to stop it depressing you!
if not tell her, hint to her, or tell her bit by bit, subtlty can work out to be good, less of a "Oh-my-gosh" moment
(Sorry about the english spelling (ie mum) english chick y'see =) )
but good luck to you, and well done =)
Vikki x
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I would try to find a basic ground with your mother after all you are 19 and growing up and your at a perfect age for boys and your mother knows it had to happen one day or another. if is no strange to be pulled to your dad's of the family in fact it is quite normal because when something is taken away from you the closest thing that you can get to that person usually is comfort and it decreases the pain a bit. you have a right to be mad at your dad i would. but i have to emit i wouldn't of forgave him that easily. So you are doing better than i would of in that case. i would say that you have to find a common ground with your mom to be able to talk to her. start out small than work your way up to the dating life and all the things she hates to hear. Tell her you need someone to talk to. and if that doesn't work see if you can talk to your cousin or a friends or anyone that believes you, and if you can't you can try to get a professional to talk to you. they might not fell like a comfort to talk to but they are there to help. and i hope i help. And remember everyone here also wants to help.
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