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nervous around my best guy friend?
18/f
i've known my best guy friend for about, 4 years now. I love the kid, i really do like him alot but he has a girlfriend of two years. Anyways, whenever i know i am going to see him, or right before i walk into a room where he is going to be my hands shake like crazy and my heart pounds so fast, it feels like i'm going to faint or something. I cant control it though, its like im nervous to see him? The weird thing is, i'm so comfortable around him. I tell him just about everything and the shaking stops like 5 minutes after i'm with him. I feel like he can always tell that i'm nervous, but i'm really not that nervous? It is confusing but does anyone know why this would happen? Is there any way for me to try and stop this shaking happening?
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I'm pretty sure that you love this guy more than you know but i think the fact that u can't tell him scares and frustrates you....i'd say try to just get your focus off of him in that way and if you can't handle that i would be totally honest with him and just lay your feelings out on the table. Its a hard thing to go through and sometimes your mind and your heart will tell you completely diffferent things but you just have to sit down and really think about you actions before you do anything. hope i helped hun
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Well from past experiences with liking my best friend is to tell them how u feel bt also say i hope this doesnt ruin our friendship and since hes the friend you say he is then he accept it and most likely feel the same way.
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Years ago I was watching a television show and a few lines were exchanged that I obviously do not seem capable of forgetting:
Person A: It sounds like you are in love with him.
Person B: Ewww. No way. He's my best friend. I can't be in LOVE with him!!!
I think our society has lost focus on what relationships are truely about.
It sounds to me like your best guy friend means more to you than you want to let on. It is great, fantastic! that you are completely comfortable around him and can talk to him about anything. It definitely sounds like he is your BEST friend. The fact that you get all shaky and your heart pounds just before you see him highly suggests that you are so excited with anticipation of seeing him.
Our significant others are supposed to be our best friends. I will occasionally hear a married woman tell me that "so and so" is her best friend. Thats okay... if what she is saying is her best female friend. But I sincerely hope she means her husband is her best overall friend. My husband is my best friend and I get so excited around 4:00 every evening because I know he will be home from work before long. If my husband (I'll even take a step back and say boyfriend) had a different girl than myself as his best friend... well that just would not work for me. Either she goes or I go.
It is disappointing to hear this guy has a girlfriend and they have been seeing each other for two years. If this guy feels the same way about you (meaning he considers you HIS best friend) I hope it will work out that eventually he separates with his current girlfriend.
A lasting relationship has everything to do with communication, laughter, trust, cooperation. It is a great bonus if the sex is good too. It is very important to be best friends with your partner- and you getting excited enough about seeing your best friend that you have jitters and palpitations... I think you already know how you feel and just don't want to admit it... perhaps because he is already involved. It makes me wonder if his current girlfriend is everything he hopes to have in a girlfriend to have a separate female as his best friend.
Best of luck.
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