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a very disturbed ex best friend
my ex best friend and i had been ex best friends once before, but she asked me online one night ... "how can I be you?" it creeped me out majorly and i told her that we needed space and that I'm my own person and she should be too. she was depressed [now we were friends again recently] and she told me that she "marks herself" so people will feel sorry for her, give her the pity vote, and be her bff. i think that's wrong. i told her she needs to talk to someone so now she sees a therapist, but its not helping. she used me to get to all of my friends and then she told them all lies that they believed, making me look like the bad guy when i did nothing wrong. so i yelled at her and we don't talk anymore. i want to tell all of my friends what she says about them, because they deserve to know that she really doesn't like them, shes just insecure and is trying to get popular. oh and she is also doing this to one of my best friends. how do i stop this? she just cries to her "friends" and they get all mad at us. i don't understand. i want to expose her, but i don't know how. please help. with anything. all feedback and advice is helpful, thanks so so much.
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It seems you have tried to help this friend,
but it didn't work very well. :(
Some things people do are beyond what we
are able to help with. Her seeing a therapist
will only help her if she wants to be helped.
Right now she uses cutting and other things
to get attention. Not something that will
go away any time soon.
She is mentally sick so I don't think you
should totally trash her to your other
friends. I would let them know she is not
quite right so they don't fall for her
tricks and then just not hang out with her
anymore. If you decide to, its ok, just
realize you will have to accept her the
way she is. Nothing you can do will change
her.
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Well i think you should help your ex bff. A bunch my friends when i was in middle school used to cut them selfs and i talked to the nurse about it and she had me write out the girls and or guys names on a piece of paper and give it to her. She spoke with all of them they started a group for them they got out of one period once or twice of week and meet and talked about there problems and why they cut. It helped all of them a lot. You should let your friends know that she is going through a tough time and although you two arn't friends anymore you can't say what she is going through and that she is crying out and needs some friends or people to be there for her and that she is lying to do that. tell them that what she said wasn't true and you hope you all can still stay friends.
Im Adding More::: It's the samething. It is causing harm to your body well in this case to hers. and could get worse. Maybe something really is bothering her.. Or if its just for attention and people catch on to it they will start to ignore her and they she could go into cutting or doing other stupid things for attention each worse than the last. It's something someone needs to help her with.
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