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Ideas how to deal?
Alright, i had an abortion in February. I was 17 and completely not ready to have a child. Well, i actually never dealt with it and to top it all off, my due date came and gone, and I had a whole night to myself and reminecing about what I would have had, their names, and what colour I would have painted the baby's room. Needless to say it wasn't/isn't easy.
Since I hadn't dealt with it, I was consistently inconsistent with my birth control and spent three or fours months not on it at all, having unprotected sex. Now during all that time, and I mean everyday! I never once got pregnant again, I had scares with late periods, but that's all, they've all come and gone. and because of my deep desperation to have a child, i've really forgotten how to deal with my life and all the bad stuff that has happened and is happening.
Question I have is does anyone have an idea on how to move on, deal with it, and make sure that it doesn't screw up any of my future relationships?
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This is not an easy choice for anybody. But like the others said, things happen for a reason. You need to forgive yourself, and learn from your mistakes. Instead of being sloppy with your contraceptives, be on top of it and be responsible. Dont allow yourself to have this happen again until you are ready to be a parent.
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Its really hard to go through what you did. The best way would honestly be to try to forget. Try not to think about it and remember everything happens for a reason. There is a reason you did what you did. And thats not going to change. Try to put it behind you. When its time for you to get pregnant it will happen. Dont just do it because. Find someone fall in love raise the baby togther do you know how hard it is to be a single mother? Babys are nice but they are ALOT of work. I had my daughter when I was 17 I AM NOW 22. I dropped out of school lost out on my teenage years, didnt go to prom or have a graduation. And I was so stressed out with paying for diapers and formula and clothes. Everything will fall into place for you honey be patient. If your worried about not being able to get pregnant ask your doctor to check you out. Let her know your worried after to had the abortion. I hope this helped a little.
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It is going to take a lot of time for you to completely come to terms with the decision you made. That child will always be apart of you because you love it and you did not want to do what you had to do. In order for you to move forward with a healthy mind and body, you need to cry and grieve so that you are letting your feelings and emotions out. If crying makes you feel better, let it out because bottling up your emotions never helps. You also need to start protecting yourself. Don't have unprotected sex because in your quest to make another baby, you could become infected with an incurable disease. Put your health before your emotions. Getting pregnant again will never replace your baby. Would you really want what you did to be in vain? That's what it will seem like. You have to live with your decision and make the best life for yourself you possibly can. If you are spiritual, pray and you need to FORGIVE YOURSELF. Once you do that, you can move forward and let life happen. Don't force a baby. You can have children later on when you are really ready. Theraphy will also help you cope if you cant get passed it. Forgive yourself and do what you have to do! Good luck!!!!
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I know this isn't an answer to your question more just advice. But it really sounds like you need to talk to a counselor of some kind. Heck i'd guess even planned parenthood or who ever did the procedure would have someone to talk to because a counselor would really know how to help you way better than some people from the internet, even if they had also had an abortion just because everyone deals with things differently.
Sorry if that wasn't what you were looking for but I hope it does help.
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