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Abusive
Things between my mother and I have been not so great for the entirety of my life. However, lately things have gotten extremely bad. At the start of summer I moved out, and when i moved back in things seemed a little better, because she knew I meant business and could leave. Then things were better for a while, but lately she's gone back to verbally abusing me, getting trashed every night and going on these upsetting tangents, so the other night I tried to commit suicide. I was rushed to the hospital and had my stomach pumped and am now staying with a friend. What should I do? I feel like i cannot go back, but now i won't have my car because my mom owns it, my jobs are all back where I live, and I don't know what to do. Help.
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I think you first need to examine why you tried to commit suicide. It sounds like you're feeling like you have no control over your life: you have no car, no job, and nowhere to live unless it's with your mom, so it's like she has you trapped.
You might be a bit stuck for a while. If your friend will let you stay with him/her for the time being, you should do that. I know from experience that you should NOT go back to living with your mom just yet. It would be great if you were able to find a job while you're with your friend. That serves two purposes: 1) You're not taking advantage of anyone and 2) You'll have an income, which is important if you think about moving out permanently.
If you can't stay with your friend for very long, do you have family nearby that you could stay with?
Meanwhile, you should try to talk to a counselor. You've had this sort of relationship with your mom your entire life, it's affected you significantly. It would be really good to have someone to talk to who will be able to help with the situation. Eventually you might want to consider going to counseling with your mom. It sounds like she's probably going through some issues herself and counseling might help begin to heal the relationship you have.
Whatever you decide on, I feel for you. This is a difficult situation and there are no answers that won't require a lot of work on your part and hopefully some on your mother's as well. Suicide is not the only option even when it feels like all other doors are closed.
I'd be happy to talk more with you on this and help you out, I've had some similar situations and I understand how absolutely frustrating it is. Feel free to email me if you want to, Nevaeh314@gmail.com.
I hope this helps. Hang in there -
Love,
Pascal
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Aww! I'm so sorry about what your going through. Don't committ suicide though. That shouldn't be a resolution. You will hurt lots of people that way. More people care about you than you think.
About your mom, i would sit down with her and tell her exactly how you feel. If she keeps abusing you, then i would contact someone who could help with you. The protection agency or something of that nature. Just stay with your friend for the time being so you can get things straighned out. Hope this helps!
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First off I hope you are doing well.
Trying to take your life won't solve anything.
Things will get better.
You need to move back in with your mom obviously. You have no other choice.
She seems to need you more than you know it. Think about her life for just a minute. Everyone is going through something.
Tell her how you really feel about her drinking and verbally abusing you. You need to have a one on one converstation no matter how hard that may be.
Save your money. As soon as you can get out of there. Don't go shopping don't go to the movies. Put your money in the bank and save for an apartment. Keep your eye out for a roomate to share rent with possibly.
You can make it through this.
Try not to spend alot of time at home. Take on more hours at work or school or find some friends to hang out with.
Goodluck. I will pray for you.
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