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Well does my bf only want one thing??
I have a problem me and my boyfriend we great together and all but when we alone it's also great but then he keeps asking me what now?? i mean what now, is he getting bored of me because when we were at a party he told me he loves me and opened up to me, now it's like over the phone umh bye not anything sweet to be said, am i losing it or what...like the other night he had a party at his house and i was kind of tipsy he just wanted to get in my pants and i wasn't myself because even my best friend told me i look more inlove then him i have no cooking clue what to do so please help me out...thanks (inlove with her boyfriend but not getting love inreturn)
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A good and bad thing about life is that we cannot read minds. It'd be cool if we could, because then it would take all the guess work and pain out of life. But then there would be no surprises, and if you ask me that would be worse.
But to get to your problem. I'm not completely straight on the order in which things were going on, so plese don't get upset if i get somethings wrong.
It's been my experience that if a guy sits down and pours out his feelings, he usually means them. There are always exclusions, but the majority of the time they mean it. Boys are *in general* more cafeful about sharring things like that, so chances are, he wouldn't have said it if he didn't mean it.
If you think he only wants you for sex there is one way to speculate. Did the confession of his love come before or after you had sex for the first time. If it was after then i'd say he definatly meant it, unless you were pressuring him to confess how he felt about(as most of us do--we want to know we are wanted, and thats ok). Then he may have lied or exaggerated to spare your feelings.
One the otherhand if he told you he loved you and then yall had sex for the first time it could go either way. He could be one of those rare but jerky guys who enjoys taking advantage of people. but i mean it when i say they are rare. But he's still there so i wouldn't say its all just for sex.
As for his sudden change in moods with you, remember that men are subject to mood swings just like women. He could be going through something, that he's afraid to talk about. And this is his way of lashing out. It might not even have anything to do with you.
The truth is i could help you break it down all day. We could go through every little thing that happened, but i'm sad to say we'd end up in the same place.
There is only one way to solve your problem, and it's going to take some serious guts and patience on your part.
You need to get your boyfriend alone somewhere, and tell him that you want to talk. Be straight with him, but don't make him feel guilty. Just tell the complete truth as calmly as you can. And before you let him answer, remind him that you want the whole truth, even if it hurts. Remind him that lying now only hurts worse later.
Sometimes we get so caught up in the problem we forget how things started, and it was probably by being open with one another. If you want to try and get things back to the way they were, you should start with that. Honesty goes a long way.
I sincerely hope it helps.
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Well at this point you need to talk to him about it. He needs to know how you're feeling and then go from there! Boys don't tend to show emotion or anything so just tell him you need to talk and see what the deal is.
Hope everything works out for you two!
Bess
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