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I know this might sound retarted but my school is defined by social clicks. More then a lot of others. I know people who haven't talked to kids and they've been in the school since the 6th grade. Which Im currently in 8th. I donno like. I hang with 7th graders [[only the chill though]] and when it comes to Social clicks... I don't have one. I have my close friends Becky. Steven. Emily. Syke. Another Steven. And I talk to everyone... If I wanted to run with the jocks I could, if I asked them to help me lose like 10 pounds they'd MAKE ME. [[which they have =]] If I wanted some make over from what i guess you could call the 'preps' I know like 5 girls that would. Madison has already begged=]. I just kick it with everyone and it was never a problem.
Then fights break out.
And Im left choosing sides.
So i told them it isn't far to make me choose, what friends do that. [[Everyone you would say lol]] And it didn't help.
I don't understand the 'social clicks'. and i know I sound like a meathead when talking about them because there always in the movies. Well there here as bad as any.
Well the fight Im most conserned about is..
Im friends with Rapheal. Steven asks me Why? [[Rapheal is black, which is NOT a problem with me whatsoever.]] So I tell Steven it's because he's ah-maze-zing. Steven starts talking crap about him so I immediatly call him out for it. [[This Steven isn't one of my close friends, he's an ass to me because Madison wont date him]]
Steven is.. 'THE BULLY' I know Retarted. Ive been saying this for a while. He's been in and out of placement for a while. He threatens me, to the point where I am afraid. I know I should have gone to a teacher, or something. But what kid does that? So stupidly, I went to Rapheal on the like brink of tears. I didn't know what else to do..
Rapheal and Steven got in the huge, physical fight. Which I know I shouldn't be happy about it, but Rapheal won. Now he's in trouble, and ergh. This all could have been avoided if I wasn't stupid.
Rapheal says he doesnt care that he got OSS, but I do.. I tried apoligising to his FAMILY even, and they don't care. [[his mommy loves me more then him=]]
Why doesn't anyone care! But me!
and i wasn't even in it..
and I guess people now think Rapheal likes me.. which i donno isn't a bad thing but theres jerks out there like Steven who call him really bad things and make me wanna kill.
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hey. first of all i think it's awesome that you're not part of one particular click. i think labels are pointless anyway, i mean people should be who they want to be right? plus there's that saying "opposites attract" and it's hard to find people with opposite interests when you do the exact same things with the exact same people all the time. as far as choosing sides goes, you shouldn't have to. if you're friends try to put you in the middle, you just need to tell them that if they want to fight then that's their business but you shouldn't be pulled into the middle of it. you are friends with BOTH of them and neither one of them did anything to you so choosing sides would be unfair. if they don't leave you out of it, just walk away. real friends shouldn't make you choose between you're other friends. by the time you've reached eighth grade you'd think people could be more mature then that. (i'm a freshman though so i know that people haven't really grown up much yet :p) anyways as for you're friend stephen running his mouth about rapheal, tell him that you don't want to hear it. it's one thing for him to think something and it's another thing for him to talk trash in front of you when he knows you're friends. if he doesn't stop then i think it would be a pretty good idea to just stop talking to him, at least at that particular point or until he changes the subject to something else. as for making you feel threatened? that is NOT okay. i'd love to say that you shouldn't be worried because he can't hit you but the truth is, he still could. i have a friend who was abused by her boyfriend when she was only in the seventh grade. it's not something to lose sleep over but if he does say something that worries you.. definitely tell an adult. don't feel guilty about the fight between the two of them. something like this will happen to almost every teenage girl at least once in her life. all you can do is tell raphael you appreciate it and understand that he is a good friend because he rushed into defend you. if people are saying he likes you? just ignore it. they'll find something new to talk about within a few days. good luck with everything, let me know if you need something else! :]
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hii i'm 14/f
and in the 8th..
i dont have a "social click" either.
i hang with everyone. even some of the lower ranking "clicks"
well as for the finding the right click thing well...just stick with the people who always have your back and never not be a true friend. its good that your hanging with everyone. but when there is a fight as in disagreements..tell them that you dont want in it and that you arent going to be the middle man. and if they still try then tell them you said i'm not choosing. you all are good friends to me and if they have issues then they need to work it out themselves..be straight up..and walk away.
as for the jerk put your foot down. he wouldnt dare touch you...unless he is a "girl hitter" and if he tries to ruin your life..and your in BIG TROUBLE by him then you CAN tell an adult..even if its lame. there is no reason why you should have to be put in that possition. so end it as quick as it started.
also we pick,choose,and make our own friends.
dont let anyone tell you otherwise or tell you who you cant be friends with. a true friends never leaves another.
if that guy says its okay when you apologized just let him know you appreciate it and that hes a true and real friend. but you wont but him in that possition again. let him know that you care =]
its okay for him to like you...
never let someone prevent you from being who you are and try to stop you. we are who we make ourselves out to be. thats us.
dont let people disrespect you.
ohh and by the way...
i'm not in a social click..so i just call myself "neutral"
hope i helped..
-M.
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