hey my name's kelli. i'm fifteen years old and a freshman at FHS. helping people is something i've always loved to do and been told i'm good at. when i'm out of highschool i'd love to go to school to become either a nurse or a licensed physcologist. along with giving advice i love singing, being outside, fashion, going out with friends, the beach, summer, etc. i've never been the most pretty girl or the most talented girl but i've earned myself a group of friends i woudln't trade for the world. i don't have a boyfriend at the moment but i've had my share of relationships and hookups over the past year. my families been through so much in the past year. they're supportive and amazing and i love them more then anything. i'm not a judgemental person and i always put myself in other people's shoes. any problem you throw my way i can probably compare to myself or at least to someone else that i know. i'm not violent or aggressive, most of the time i have a hard time standing up for myself. mostly i'm a peace maker and so far that's worked to my advantage. i've helped put together alot of my friends relationships and problems. this isn't my first advice column but i hope to keep this one going longer then the rest. ask me any question, i promise i'll give you an honest answer and i won't turn you away. i hope i can help you in some way :]
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I know this might sound retarted but my school is defined by social clicks. More then a lot of others. I know people who haven't talked to kids and they've been in the school since the 6th grade. Which Im currently in 8th. I donno like. I hang with 7th graders [[only the chill though]] and when it comes to Social clicks... I don't have one. I have my close friends Becky. Steven. Emily. Syke. Another Steven. And I talk to everyone... If I wanted to run with the jocks I could, if I asked them to help me lose like 10 pounds they'd MAKE ME. [[which they have =]] If I wanted some make over from what i guess you could call the 'preps' I know like 5 girls that would. Madison has already begged=]. I just kick it with everyone and it was never a problem.
Then fights break out.
And Im left choosing sides.
So i told them it isn't far to make me choose, what friends do that. [[Everyone you would say lol]] And it didn't help.
I don't understand the 'social clicks'. and i know I sound like a meathead when talking about them because there always in the movies. Well there here as bad as any.
Well the fight Im most conserned about is..
Im friends with Rapheal. Steven asks me Why? [[Rapheal is black, which is NOT a problem with me whatsoever.]] So I tell Steven it's because he's ah-maze-zing. Steven starts talking crap about him so I immediatly call him out for it. [[This Steven isn't one of my close friends, he's an ass to me because Madison wont date him]]
Steven is.. 'THE BULLY' I know Retarted. Ive been saying this for a while. He's been in and out of placement for a while. He threatens me, to the point where I am afraid. I know I should have gone to a teacher, or something. But what kid does that? So stupidly, I went to Rapheal on the like brink of tears. I didn't know what else to do..
Rapheal and Steven got in the huge, physical fight. Which I know I shouldn't be happy about it, but Rapheal won. Now he's in trouble, and ergh. This all could have been avoided if I wasn't stupid.
Rapheal says he doesnt care that he got OSS, but I do.. I tried apoligising to his FAMILY even, and they don't care. [[his mommy loves me more then him=]]
Why doesn't anyone care! But me!
and i wasn't even in it..
and I guess people now think Rapheal likes me.. which i donno isn't a bad thing but theres jerks out there like Steven who call him really bad things and make me wanna kill.
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hey. first of all i think it's awesome that you're not part of one particular click. i think labels are pointless anyway, i mean people should be who they want to be right? plus there's that saying "opposites attract" and it's hard to find people with opposite interests when you do the exact same things with the exact same people all the time. as far as choosing sides goes, you shouldn't have to. if you're friends try to put you in the middle, you just need to tell them that if they want to fight then that's their business but you shouldn't be pulled into the middle of it. you are friends with BOTH of them and neither one of them did anything to you so choosing sides would be unfair. if they don't leave you out of it, just walk away. real friends shouldn't make you choose between you're other friends. by the time you've reached eighth grade you'd think people could be more mature then that. (i'm a freshman though so i know that people haven't really grown up much yet :p) anyways as for you're friend stephen running his mouth about rapheal, tell him that you don't want to hear it. it's one thing for him to think something and it's another thing for him to talk trash in front of you when he knows you're friends. if he doesn't stop then i think it would be a pretty good idea to just stop talking to him, at least at that particular point or until he changes the subject to something else. as for making you feel threatened? that is NOT okay. i'd love to say that you shouldn't be worried because he can't hit you but the truth is, he still could. i have a friend who was abused by her boyfriend when she was only in the seventh grade. it's not something to lose sleep over but if he does say something that worries you.. definitely tell an adult. don't feel guilty about the fight between the two of them. something like this will happen to almost every teenage girl at least once in her life. all you can do is tell raphael you appreciate it and understand that he is a good friend because he rushed into defend you. if people are saying he likes you? just ignore it. they'll find something new to talk about within a few days. good luck with everything, let me know if you need something else! :]
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ok well i have been with this guy and this is the same one i had problems with on my last question, but things had gotten better but now are getting worse and im tired of it i think i shouldnt have to be so angry all the time and wonder if im important to him i need a guy who will show me and treat me like i am so i am thinking of calling it off i just dont know exactly how to break up with him i mean we have been through alot and i care for him i dont want to hurt him but at the same time i need to just move on i still wanna be his friend though:( and advice would help at this point because im so lost and i know this break up will hurt me to (link)
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hey. i've been in your position before and i know how hard it is and how much it sucks. but you still have to tell him what you're feeling. if you stay together and continue to fight just because neither one of you wants to risk losing your friendship, then you ARE going to lose your friendship because you're gunna learn to resent each other that way. it's honestly so much easier to break it off now while things are still okay between the two of you. tell him you care for him so much but that the tension between the two of you is obvious and he must be feeling it to. tell him you think you're friendship would be better in the long run if you took a break for a while and just stayed friends. if it was truely meant to be, you guys will be together again in the future when you can get along better. if it's not then at least you can still be friends and know that you tried. good luck and if you need anything else just let me know :]
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ok so i have a lot of scars on my legs and some on my arms.but they are old and have now healed.but there are still the scar marks that show on my skin and it looks bad.and i do have one new scar that is still in the healing process.
what non expensive healing cream or something can i buy at a local store that will get rid of old scars and new scars? (link)
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hey. i've been there with the whole scar thing before. i would most definitely reccomend merderma scar. you can get it at basically any drug store or grocery store. it is on the more expensive side (usually about 17 dollars)but it does work after time. My scars are hardly visible anymore. Good luck!
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