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he knows he can have me..
18 years old, female :)
well i've liked this guy for the LONGEST time. like three and a half years. but we're also best friends. so me and him always denied liking each other. and i know he is attracted to me but didn't do anything about it and same for me. but recently i've let him know i like him. i havent told him exactly "i like you" but we've been messing around (nothing really sexual) and flirting non stop when i see him, i'll sit in his lap and he will hold me. and well now i feel like i made a mistake. because he will text me like two days straight after i hang out with him (i usually only see him sometimes on the weekends) and then he won't text me all week, even sometimes he will be like i'll text you tomorrow and he won't. i feel like he now knows he can have me, and that i'll always have feelings for him so he doesn't have to try as hard. i don't text people first, everyone knows that. but it's just heartbreaking. it's like he knows he can control me. i don't know if you want to say control exactly but he knows he can have me when he wants. i try to make myself seem "unavailable" like he'll want to hangout on friday and i'll be like im with my friends! and i will be like lets hang out tomorrow. why do i feel like this? i feel so sad, and confused. what should i do? i don't want to drift apart from him, so i don't really want to ignore him. i've tried playing hard to get. i'm just stuck.
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Why don't you actually ask him straight out if he wants to be your boyfriend. Sometimes playing hard-to-get won't work. Hope this helps! =)
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Wow, talk about mixed signals, sounds like you got this guy not knowing whether he's coming or going. Are you sure your 18, because this sounds more like 15 or 16.
The most troublesome thing here is, best friends is the strongest position to start from in a male female relationship, but must be approached with care. You want to go to the next step, but not take three steps at a time. Frankly, you sound like you want to jump to the next landing and go straight from best friends to sexual partners, big mistake by the way.
Stop with the mixed signals and the games and tell him you would like to go out with him. Tell him you think your feelings for him go deeper then just friends and if he feels the same, you'd like to find out where it goes. Don't commit to each other right away, just date a few times and see how it feels. If a first kiss comes along someday, see how it feels. Take the steps from first date to passion, don't let your libido talk you into jumping to the next landing, trust me, you'll be glad you did.
Don't argue about the losing a friend crap with me either, if you feel this way, it's the chance you must take. Better to lose a best friend then to regret never trying, he could be the one you spend the rest of your life with, but then again, he might not be, but don't look back in ten years regretting that you didn't try.
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