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i might be a sex addict
ok i am a 14/f. everyday at least twice i am thinking about sex. i want to have it but im scared i watch people on redtube.com have sex and i like it. i do not know how to stop this and i need help my parents or sister do not know about this. my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years does not know this and i want to tell him but i dont no how any advice??
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At 14 most people go through this. The onset of hormones and desires you don't know how to regulate yet.
A flexible shower head or vibrating toothbrush could help. Google masturbation, it will give you some ideas.
Some people have higher sex drives than others. When not sexually active those of us who have stronger desires have to pay more attention so we don't go crazy. Try to take care of yourself a little bit, and beyond that talk to your boyfriend about it.
Tell him that you don't want to do anything about it, and that you just need him to listen and be there to talk to about it, but this is what you're going through. Set boundaries so that you don't go further than you'd want if a conversation heats up with him, and he should be a safe outlet.
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Don't sweat it i know 14 is a young age at 14 i felt the same way i wanted it and was kinda obsessed about it, talking to no one. best thing to ease this is to have a lil' "fun time" by yourself explor your body what you like and don't like. Also I'de wait a while befor you actually have sex, it can be addictive, use protection like a condome and go on the pill as well. The best thing to do for your Bf is don't tell him that you want sex. Because like a guy he'll want it if you want it. Gust tell him your having a hard time with new feelings and you don't know what to do, and if he dose mention "having sex" gust tell him your not ready untill your older and that your not moving on that.
Hope this helps ;)
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first of all. EVERYONE thinks about sex. don't feel weird. however, just because your thinking about sex doesn't mean you should have sex. and you can't be addicted to sex without having sex. but you could be addicted to thinking about sex. your only addicted if it is affecting your daily life in a bad way. you should NOT have sex at 14. a lot of the time, its a lot different than you think. it has so many consequences other than std's and pregnancy. Its an emotional rollercoaster and its a lot to handle. if you tell your bf you want to have sex. chances are he'll want to have sex. and if you aren't sure than i wouldn't tell him. you can always masturbate. the majority of people do. something like 80% of girls. it can help relieve sexual tension. if you don't know how you can google it. if you think your REALLY ready. USE A CONDOM. i cannot stress this enough. you definitely don't want to become pregnant at fourteen. its not a hard thing to do if you aren't using protection. you can get pregnant, the first time, any time. you can get pregnant on your period. you can get pregnant underwater, in trees, anywhere. be safe. THINK IT THROUGH. please. trust me. sex is serious. good luck.
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Well, chances are your boyfriend has visited redtube more than a few times too, and I bet he wouldn't mind if one day, you told him that you wanted to have sex with him.
Just tell him straight up.
But make sure you have condoms and stuff, birth control wouldn't hurt either.
The first few times, will not be like anything you see on the internet. It hurts, it's not very fun, you probably won't enjoy it.
But I promise, after like the 3rd time, it's just as awesome as it sounds.
You might want to let your mom know that you're ready to lose your virginity too, if she's logical, she'll be supportive of you, and take you to the gyno to get some birth control.
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