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Confused
Ok.. so im not very good at like dating or with love. it seems everytime i get close to someone, i always end up hurt. well i had 2 loves in my life they were about 5 years apart. well i finally moved on and i found someone new. Im falling so deeply in love, i mean i never felt this way before ever!! this is like i think about this person all the time and i can see myself being with them, everyone thinks were so good togther. but i always have this feeling that things aren't so great. Now am i just feeling that way cause im just afraid to get hurt? i think this relationship is amazing, and its gonna work, but then i feel like it wont. im just so confused??
if you could help me..i'd be gratefull
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Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
Most relationships fail or end. Think about it. How many people fall in love once, get married and then live out their lives together and die together?
That never happens.
You're likely to have relationships end in the course of your life. It's the human experience and nothing to worry about. Hey, this relationship may end. And then maybe you'll learn some things about yourself and what you want and what you should and shouldn't do.
Or maybe it won't and this will be it. One thing I do know, though, is this: If you spend too much time worrying about it ending then you're not really enjoying the relationship. Bringing neurosis into a happy relationship is a good way to make it end.
Will you never get a pet just because it'll die and you'll get hurt? Will you never have children because giving birth will hurt? And you'll be worried about them and that will hurt? will you never make friends because you may grow apart and it will hurt?
Life is pain. Life can be great, but there is always the eventuality of pain. Just accept that and try to take joy in what you have while you have it. The only person you're ever guaranteed to have your whole life is yourself. You can't worry about things ending to the point you're picking apart the things that make you happy.
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ok.. ya i've been in the situation lots of times all you have to do is if you have a gut feeling that its not going to work talk to the person ask him or her if he wants it to work and a if he or her says yes then it will and follow your gut whatever it tells you to do then do it if you think the person is the best thing stay with them and when you have the feeling just breathe and calm down and see what your instinct is telling you to do
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