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What am I gonna do with him?
Before I begin, let me just say that this is a LONG scenerio!
Towards the end of June, I met an amazing kid, infact he was too good to be true. Throughout summer we hung out 3/4 times a week and I was really starting to like him, a lot. He would even borrow my car when I was at work because he didn't have a car at the time, and I trusted him. He never acted suspicious and we spent so much time together I was falling in love with him. Once school started I started to pick him up in the mornings so he could go to school with my car and I would let him use my car when I was at work. And we would chill everyday after I got out of work, and we would always be together on my off days. We were together every single day & it was starting to surprise everyone. He needed to find a new place to live and it was stressing out the both of us because I'm not 18 yet and he is 21. I did everything with this kid, sexually that is, but never had sex with him because I didn't feel as if I were ready yet. & he always said "I don't need to have sex to be in a relationship." He was going through hard times, and I even helped him out by giving him money (prob spent around $1500 on him in 3 months.) All of a sudden, out of the blue, he broke up with me. He told me it was because he couldn't do it in this town, and he didn't want the problems from his past to be a stress on me. and how I had a good life going for me, and I need to graduate from highschool, go to college, etc. He said he had other things to worry about, and he didn't want to be in a relationship. However, when we first met he always said he didn't want to be in a relationship but appearantly I was differnt for him.
Even after we broke up, we see eachother every single day. Most people would probably see it as FWB (Friends w/ Benefits.) I personally don't have a problem with it, but I just feel liek lately there is another girl involved. I don't want to jump to any conclusions, because I'm not sure. He also happens to be VERY close with my cousin, they are almost together everyday.
I feel like he is bipolar, when no one is around we'll just cuddle and watch tv just kiss, fool around, etc. And when people are around he won't even sit next to me, he'll sit a few feet away.
I just don't know whether I should just blow the kid off, tell him to stop calling me or just deal with it until he leaves town, which is in the next few months.
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Six words: GET HIM OUT OF YOUR LIFE. And why should you be the jeolous one? You should be the one with the hott guys hanging on you, not you hanging on your ex, which is exactly what he is. No more fooling around with him. You want to have some fun? Go find a different guy, one that won't treat you crappy when your around other people. And like I said: No more joelousy! He should be the jeolous one. Go out and have fun. Just not with him.
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You really need to talk to him about it. Like seriously have a sit down conversation and ask him what the heck is going on. I don't know him personally so I can't tell you what he is thinking. And as for thething with your cousin you really need to see whats goin on. Ask him how he feels and why he has like nothing to do with you in public. After you talk to him then decide if he's worth putting up or walking away from.
Good luck with everything :)
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Talk to him about it. Ask about your cousin. Ask about why your good enough alone but not in public. ASK. ASK. ASK. I don't know the kid. None of us do. Your best bet is to ask him because he knows better than anybody else. Stop letting him use your car, money, or even more importantly...you. Don't blow him off, or leave him alone until you know every single answer to every single question you have for him. If he gives you an answer that draws the line then just ignore him. You can say hi, but don't make the effort to hang out iwth him or associate with him.
Good luck
Hope i helped
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