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my boyfriend
Okay, look me and my boyfriend are doing pretty good..."i guess" like we haven't argued or anything like that. But anyways! My boyfriend is really sweet and funny, but sometimes he frustrated me. He does this thing where he'll be all over me one day and the next day he will ingore me completely. But he stays ingoreing...sometimes a little and sometimes a lot. But over the summer we would have long night conversations like I love you and I miss you and things like that, and when we would hang out he would love being with me...but now that school has started he really hasn't been himself. Like I said he hangs out with his friends and doesn't pay much attention with me, but there was this one day where I hung out with his family at Chuckie Cheese (his lil sis bday) and he was all over me...its like at school he's different, and when it's just us he's different again...and I hate it..idk what to do with him...but breaking up ISNT an option...cause it not that serious
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Just because you aren't arguing doesn't make you two "good." It is "good" when you are happy, or at least content. Don't settle for anything less! If you are unhappy with his up-and-down attitude, you need to tell him. I completely understand why you are upset with his new attitude- because he acted so drastically different earlier in your relationship.. and you liked it better. (I am currently dealing with the same thing with my boyfriend.) The point is, you need to communicate with him. Seriously, communication is key. I've learnt that over the last few weeks. If you want him to pay more attention to you, you need to let him know. You need to tell him how you are feeling. If you are feeling neglected, if you feel like he doesn't care anymore, or if you want more attention- you need to tell him. He probably doesn't realize what he's doing and he's not going to change unless you bring it up. If he does realize it, then you should question why he is with you.
I understand that you don't want to break up- I definitely wouldn't either. But you need to talk to him and figure out how to make things work so that you are happy. If you are not happy, it is not worth it. So definitely try and talk to him, because it is serious! Tell him exactly what you wrote about the summer, how he would tell you he loves you and stuff. It actually makes me laugh how alike our situation is. I told my boyfriend that it's the like little things that make a big difference. And he's been trying to do the cute little things for me, and I notice he's been trying. Don't expect him to radically change immediately, but as long as you see he's putting an effort in, I would keep him around.
If you like it when he's "all over you," then tell him! COMMUNICATE, GIRL!
I hope everything works out! :)
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Well, what I would do is tell him. Be like "why do you act so different at school then at home?" or when he's "all over you" just be like, "why are you acting different?"
In school, he probably wants to seem like a tough guy in front of his friends which is why he's not really compassionate towards you.
It's just a guy thing.
If he ignores you, don't put up with that. Tell him. Mention how you don't like when he ignores you because it makes you feel like he doesn't want to be around you (or whatever your reason may be). Just let him know how you feel and be honest.
If your not honest with each other, then your relationship will only regress. If you have something to tell him, I'm sure he's more then happy to listen.
Hope this helps !
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