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Lesbian?!
I'm 13/f. I just started middle school since i'm in hong kong and the whole school thing is different. So when i started school there was this girl who used to stick to me all the time and hold my arm and stuff like that. Then after a few days she stopped. then she started doing it to other people and i get jealous. and i always dream about her and think about her. i think i like her but i don't want to be a lesbian. like i get all shy around her and blush and brush my arm against her and stuff, and get really happy when she looks at me or talks to me.
but the problem is, she holds hands with different people all the time. i don't think its so serious, and i'm not planning to tell her i like her. but how can i forget about her? i really don't want to like her but i can't help it.
PLESE PLEASE PLEASE its been bothering me a lot and all i can think about and talk about is HER! i try to act like its nothing but i'm dying!!
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So you don't know if you're a lesbien? Ask yourself if you like girl's bodies or if you want to touch girls and kiss them, not just this one girl, but pretty girls in general. Do you get feelings for boys most of the time or ever?
Being gay is something you're either born being or you're not, and just like straight people know they're straight when they're teenagers, gay teens know they're gay too.
I think, though, that you may be experiencing a girl crush. It's very, very common for young straight girls your age to get "crushes" on other girls.
Really explore your feelings and do some imagining. Does the idea of kissing girls (any girls, not just this girl) feel good or feel weird? Does the idea of kissing boys feel good or feel weird? What you may find is that your feelings towards this girl may just be about how great you think she is.
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Honestly, you are 13, I really don't think you can consider yourself a lesbian b/c you are still growing. It's okay to look at other people and think about them, by like admiring them. You may just want to experiment. But I wouldn't worry about it, b/c you have plenty of time to decide if you are or are not a lesbian.
If this made no sense I am sorry. It is hard to be a teenager, b/c there are so many things to worry about in life. Don't worry about being a lesbian, only time will tell who you really are. But no matter what happens, please don't judge yourself any differently.
Best of luck to you :)
I think it may be bothering you, b/c pyschologically you are worried about liking her, just relax and see what happens.
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