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being open
im a pretty outgoing and open person.
but im only open if im ased about it.
example one:my cousins girlfriend and i were talking about drinking and i wanted to tell her about the weekend before when i had drank but i didnt say anything till she asked me if ive gotten drunk before.
example two.
whenever i need to talk to my best friend i never say i need to talk to you about this guy. i just stop talking and wait for her to notice i need to talk.
idk why i do that but i wish i didnt. maybe im fighting for attention with my best friend idk. what can i do to stop and dont just say "stop" cause its not that easy
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
Some things you may feel a little uncomfortable talking about or initiating. Or sometimes that you may feel awkward by just jumping into a conversation. That's completely normal.
I think if you want to talk about something, like in example 2, just say, "I need to talk to you" because people can't be guessing and reading your mind to know if you need to talk to them. If you have something to say, don't hide behind anything and don't be afraid to say it.
People don't know if you have/need to say something unless you initiate the fact that you have to say something. Your friend won't always play guessing games, so you should have enough comfort and trust in her to just say it.
If you want to say something, just say it, unless it uncomforts you that much that you don't want to say it until someone asks you. But you can rely on someone to play guessing games with you.
Hope this helped !
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What I am reading here is you are asking how to SPEAK UP and JUMP IN? Correct?
Actually, unless it's extremely urgent and you must get your point accross immediatly, you are already conducting yourself in the correct manner by waiting until the time is appropiate to speak.
Silence on your part will always encourage other people to talk more, and make you appear to be a good listener, which will draw people to you. So don't stop, just keep being yourself, you are fine the way you are.
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