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my boyfriend might like my best friend
i just started highschool, and there is this guy who i liked. I ended up finding out that he liked me too because he told my best friend. He later on then asked me out, which i regret because everything was moving way too fast. Especially because we didn't really know each other. A week after we'd been going out, my friend started geting too involved in my boyfriend and i's relationship...example...She felt it necessary to read every note he wrote to me, and the ones i wrote him. I told her not to read everynote because honestly, she didn't need to do that.....this relationship was not built on 3 people....just two, me and him. i told her she could read the notes only if i was to say, "hey, look at this" not her always demanding to read. my boyfriend and I don't have any classes together accept one. We don't see each other much in classes, plus we can't hang out because he's not old enough to hang out till he's 16 + he has strict parents. Anyway, my best friend was flirting with my boyfriend before me and my boyfriend were going out, and i told her not to do it. She denied flirting with him and trying to take him away from me, and she promised to watch herself. After my boyfriend and I started going out, my other group of friends started noticing that my best friend was flirting with him, so they told me. I confronted my boyfriend about it, and he said he thought she liked him but not to worry because he liked me. Then I confronted my friend about it, she got pissed at me, and then i looked like the bad person. My friends who told me were on her side now, and I felt like I had done something wrong. After all this, everything was fixed, and now my boyfriend and I are still going, but i feel this distance between my boyfriend and I. I feel like we just don't seem right together. And a part of me thinks he likes my best friend because everytime we are all three together, he talks to her more than me, and when we leave the one class we have together, and my bestfriend is leaving, he goes and leaves with her when i'm still trying to get my books into my bag or whatever....and it bugs me because he is supposed to be waiting for me. Even when he's saying something, he will be making more eye contact with her than me. I'm so sure he likes her. And i feel like she is a fucking back stabber because she has let everything go as far as it has. If i can feel and see it, I bet that if i can feel all this, they can see it too, and its so obvious.....I'm so confused with everything that I'm wondering what you guys think is really going on with him or her even me...i don't know if i'm maybe going too overboard...anyways.... thank you for replying!:)
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She sounds like a bitch ass lil backstabber..don't you hate girls like that..well it does seem like she's interested in him and him in her its happened to me my cousin hooked me up with a guy an she talked to him on the phone more than me I was soo sad and they were 2gether for 11 months until he broke up with her..I never talked to her again.just kno this that girl is not worthy to be your friend girl an that guy your man...so break it off he will hurt you more than you already are..relationships should not feel like that
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Being in a relationship in high school is probably the most difficult task, ever.
If you have the feeling that you and your boyfriend are growing apart, then perhaps it is time for the relationship to end.
I think that is the most common question high school girls ask is "how can I keep her from stealing my boyfriend?" The reality is... if she wants to- she shouldn't be your friend and if he CAN be stolen... he should be.
If you can't trust your boyfriend to be there for you and be a trustworthy, caring companion then he is not worth keeping.
The whole point of dating in high school is to try to get an idea of what you like in boys so you can eventually find the right person when you are a bit older that you want to spend the rest of your life with.
If you are constantly under stress that your boyfriend may leave you for another girl... let him. He is not worth the time of day. Eventually you will meet someone who only has eyes for you and it doesn't matter who crosses his path, he only cares about you. If you are with someone less worthy, you may not be available to notice this other great guy because you are preoccupied with the guy who is causing you to be upset!
If another girl is after him, let her have him. Eventually yet another girl will be after him and he will leave her as well and then SHE too will be empty handed.
This is all quite difficult to do when you are in high school and your hormones are raging and you think there is nothing more important in your life than your social life.
If you are concerned about this guy leaving you and you want to put a little effort into keeping him, I suggest you be completely open with him about being hurt that he doesn't wait for you and whatever else bothers you.
One thing I want to mention- this applies more to grown up relationships; those that are meant to last a lifetime but I frequently think teens should hear this too... Women often have too high expectations of what their man should be like. Men are NOT women. They are not constantly thinking about us as we feel they should be. They are not always focused on our emotions and what would make US happy as we feel they should be. They don't want to walk around in a crowd being all giggley. They like to kinda hang out with a couple of buddies and not really talk about anything important. That is just how they are. We women sometimes misinterpret this as our man no longer cares about us. Not true. They are just not showing us what we want to be shown. Once women realize this, we can cut our men some slack and all be happier.
I hope this helps.
Best of luck.
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I dont want to hurt your feelings but there's a 50/50 chance he might have feelings for her. I mean what actual boyfriend leaves his girlfriend at her locker to go hang or talk with her friend. And then again he could just be trying to be nice to her, because of what happend, and he felt you ended up with him happily, and she was the victim or loser or whatever in the whole situation. If you feel that things are really really shaky between you too, confront the situation, maybe by talking to your friend first, if that doesn't satisfy you, then you probably should nicely confront your boyfriend, like if he leaves you at the locker again to go talk to your friend, catch up to him and when she leaves say something like "I wish you would walk and talk with me like that, better yet wait for me". But dont make it sound like your jealous, eventhough all boys suspect that first Lol! Good Luck !
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