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Am I over reacting?
I'm a 41 year old female and I've recently found out that my husband of 16 years is communicating with a women he was engaged to when we first met. I don't really care that he's spoken to her, I'm not an over jealous person, but I am rather hurt that he hasn't mentioned it to me. It gives me the feeling that there's a reason why he didn't say anything. And the longer it goes on and he doesn't mention it I'm starting to become terribly hurt by this because it feels like a type of betrayal.
Am I over reacting? I know people react differently but if I was in contact with an ex-boyfriend I would probably tell him about it right away.
Thanks
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I would be jumping to conclusions to in a situation like this. It makes you think he's hiding this for a reason. Maybe that's not the case. He could just not be telling you because he knows you are the love of his life and nobody can take your place. But if he's been acting strange around you and it seems like somethings up why not talk to him about it. Talking is key to a good relationship. Just don't go off on him. Talk it through calmly.
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Hi,
I can empathise with your situation. It does kind of make you wonder why he wouldn't tell you about something like that especially as long as the two of you have been married. After all that time, there should be no secrets.
Believe me, you have to say something to him about this. If you don't, it's going to continue to haunt you and drive you crazy.
He shouldn't be talking to another woman, especially if he was engaged to her behind your back.
If he's not telling you, he must know he shouldn't be doing it.
Sometimes when you've been married for a long time, things become stale and one or the other partners want to spice things up.
I'm not saying he's doing anything. He's probably not, but I think it's best to nip this in the bud. Don't let this linger. If he's thinking of doing something, it's best to keep the lines of communication open between the two of you. Talk to him and ask him if everything is okay. Tell him how you feel.
I hope everyting works out between the two of you.
Good luck to you,
Ediemarie
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it could be that he doesn't want to tell you because because its no big deal, i know a lot of guys that hide things because they think a women will over react to the situation and its easier not to tell them.. but if you know your husband would tell you even if he thinks you would over react then.. i would be a little suspicious myself. It could be something, it could be nothing.. maybe try talking to him about it
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