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neighbor thinks were rude.
ok i am worried that my neighbor is upset with me because whenever i see her with her pet, a dog i look scared all the time. and maybe she took it wrong. cause this time she looked like she was mad at me. but i was only scared of the dog. they always come to me when i dont want them. and i was with my mom and they gave each other this glance and i felt like i cause some insulting moments. i dont really have a question but i want to know someones take on it and how could i react next time i see the woman so she doesnt feel insulted or i am being directly rude. does anyone think she will complain about us or confront us next time? did she think i did something insulting? cause i dont want my mom or me involve in a fight that is just a misunderstanding. but the woman really looked bothered that i was scared.
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You're making too much out of this. I doubt she's mad at you or was even thinking about you. She might have been upset with her dog even or not even thinking of you. A look or even a stare can mean many different things unless you know the reason for it.
Next time you see her say "Hello Mr/Mrs so-and-so it's good to see you. Can I talk to you for a second? Yesterday, when I was here and you passed by with your dog I sensed you were upset with me. I just wanted to make sure you weren't.
Tell him/her that you are deathly afraid of dogs and that's why you react the way you do when she's near with hers. She'll understand.
The next thing I want you to do is pat the dog on its head and pet it if it comes to you while she has it on the leash. The dog will see from the owner that this is okay and won't bark but will smell you and perhaps lick you. Once this happens you'll never be fearful of dogs.
In fact the dogs you know are barking at you for two reasons. 1) It's scared of you and knows no other response unless the owner tells it it's okay and b) they're protecting the owner or property from people they don't know.
The dog senses you are fearful so he/she is reacting to the vibe it gets from you and responding with a bark or a growl that means "get away" as they're scared also.
Listen, I used to be scared of dogs because big snarly ones would bark at me on my newspaper route. Some were even off leash and approached me before the owner called them over and explained why the dog did what it did.
The only way I got over the fear was to buy a dog of my own. Said dog is now 10-years-old and we recently got another one who is almost 2. I urge you to get a dog from a breeder not a pet store or go to a shelter and start training it. Your fear will fade and turn into love.
Even if a dog passes by all snarly or comes up to you with/without the owner in immediate sight it will not bite you if you stand still, don't move and show it that it can bark, growl etc. but you're not scared.
Speak to it calmly and it will back down. Dog's don't bite unless they've got a reason and attacks are rare anyways. We're not talking pitbulls here as I wouldn't turn my back on that breed. They're the only dogs I know that are 100% unpredictable and can turn on someone. But like I said all other dogs are fine.
Let me know when you get one.
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